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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 717309" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Ok don't shoot me here people. We have made a decision. After speaking with sons social worker today drugs are an issue in shelters lately. There are free samples of heroin and fentanyl being given out to get the shelter kids hooked. So perhaps sons fear is valid. They are working at getting him into a housing program called bridging the gap. It is safe haven housing for vulnerable youth social worker on site. The drug vultures steer clear of here. So sons fear is perhaps valid. </p><p></p><p>He called me clear minded and crying rhis afternoon he apologized for his bad behavior and said his life was a mess. He admitted to not wanting to give us a urine sample because he would test positive for cocaine. He admited to the attempt at a drug deal. He said he does not want to wind up like a loser on the streets. Manipulation, or an epiphany who's to know. </p><p>One thing I know is if I give this kid an inch he will take the whole road in double speed. </p><p>So the plan. We got him a cheap yucky hotel room and a $50 food gift card. If he is genuine as stated he will sleep and get his head straight and we will talk when we see him on Sunday. He can put a housing voucher in because there was no youth assisted housing available only the men's shelter (after 16 they can technically go but they don't like them to). Which means we get a 60-75% return on the room fee. </p><p>We have 3 more days to calm down from the chaos and he has 3 days to prove his sincerity. He is willing to ramp up his rehab to intensive (they have to volunteer to do this and it includes drug testing). If he implodes no harm to us he is not in the Hosue so we don't have to get him out. His social assisted housing application goes forward and we are still on track. If it is an epiphany well may the stars shine and the band strike up! Ya I am cautiously optimistic and cautiously sarcastic as well. </p><p>In our guts we could not live with the thinking that maybe we gave up too soon or robbed him of a true shot. We can live with yet another lunch bag let down, even just to prove to ourselves that we are on the right path. </p><p>It has been one very long day. </p><p>Son called when he checked in. Said they had a smaller room become available and he took it to save extra money (ok weird but ok), he thanked me and said he is afraid there is something wrong with his head that might not be able to be fixed. I said self medicating is defiantly not the answer. He talked for quit a while and was more conversive than he had been in years. When o asked what the big shift was. He said seeing the kids he was arrested with not even bother to call an adult and not care about getting arrested. He said he doesn't want a criminal record, does not want to be an drug user. He asked if a bit of pot would be ok. I said nope, not for you. He said he knows that will be hard for him. I agreed and said he may need in patient care. He said he doesn't want to blow his school opportunity. I said he won't be able to focus if he didn't let his brain repair. He agreed. </p><p></p><p>Will keep you posted and thanks for your support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 717309, member: 21895"] Ok don't shoot me here people. We have made a decision. After speaking with sons social worker today drugs are an issue in shelters lately. There are free samples of heroin and fentanyl being given out to get the shelter kids hooked. So perhaps sons fear is valid. They are working at getting him into a housing program called bridging the gap. It is safe haven housing for vulnerable youth social worker on site. The drug vultures steer clear of here. So sons fear is perhaps valid. He called me clear minded and crying rhis afternoon he apologized for his bad behavior and said his life was a mess. He admitted to not wanting to give us a urine sample because he would test positive for cocaine. He admited to the attempt at a drug deal. He said he does not want to wind up like a loser on the streets. Manipulation, or an epiphany who's to know. One thing I know is if I give this kid an inch he will take the whole road in double speed. So the plan. We got him a cheap yucky hotel room and a $50 food gift card. If he is genuine as stated he will sleep and get his head straight and we will talk when we see him on Sunday. He can put a housing voucher in because there was no youth assisted housing available only the men's shelter (after 16 they can technically go but they don't like them to). Which means we get a 60-75% return on the room fee. We have 3 more days to calm down from the chaos and he has 3 days to prove his sincerity. He is willing to ramp up his rehab to intensive (they have to volunteer to do this and it includes drug testing). If he implodes no harm to us he is not in the Hosue so we don't have to get him out. His social assisted housing application goes forward and we are still on track. If it is an epiphany well may the stars shine and the band strike up! Ya I am cautiously optimistic and cautiously sarcastic as well. In our guts we could not live with the thinking that maybe we gave up too soon or robbed him of a true shot. We can live with yet another lunch bag let down, even just to prove to ourselves that we are on the right path. It has been one very long day. Son called when he checked in. Said they had a smaller room become available and he took it to save extra money (ok weird but ok), he thanked me and said he is afraid there is something wrong with his head that might not be able to be fixed. I said self medicating is defiantly not the answer. He talked for quit a while and was more conversive than he had been in years. When o asked what the big shift was. He said seeing the kids he was arrested with not even bother to call an adult and not care about getting arrested. He said he doesn't want a criminal record, does not want to be an drug user. He asked if a bit of pot would be ok. I said nope, not for you. He said he knows that will be hard for him. I agreed and said he may need in patient care. He said he doesn't want to blow his school opportunity. I said he won't be able to focus if he didn't let his brain repair. He agreed. Will keep you posted and thanks for your support. [/QUOTE]
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