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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 389648" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>LOL! The closest we came to that was that difficult child really was an angel as an infant. It was between 18 mos and 2yo that he became a heandful to stay ahead of, then 11 when he became a difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Interestly enough, I just got back from shopping (I'll update later about that- in a new thread) and found a forwarded piece of mail from DSS re MY CS. It says they have not rec'd payment from me in over 45 days and I am now past due for XXX amount, which is the amount I was paying for difficult child last year. I don't get how this works- when difficult child was committed 18 mos ago, I rec'd a notice to meet with them right before a CS hearibng in court. The meeting was for me to tell them my employment pay/unemployment status, etc, then we went into the court room for the judge to set the amount. I paid it off as I was supposed to so I owe them nothing from that since difficult child was released this past March. They never contacted me this year to update status or go to court to get a revised amount set. They never sent me anything saying to re-start paying the same amount. So I have no idea if they just didn't close out the CS from Spring and didn't document that I could stop paying then because difficult child had been released and they think I owe them for late spring and early summer (I be darned if I'm paying for the mos he was living at home with me) or if they are saying I should have automatically started paying 2 mos ago or whenever he was recommitted to Department of Juvenile Justice so now they just want me to start back paying that amount. That's fine but I have a feeling they have just gotten their records botched. </p><p></p><p>A CW is supposed to call me next week since I raised such a fuss about them not going after difficult child's father or pursuing him while not hesitating to pursue me. I'll get it straight with her about which mos difficult child was officially in my custody or not. Since the judge set the amount last year and did not base it on income, maybe I'll get lucky and they'll be happy with keeping it the same amount. I'd be ecstatic if that turns out to be the case now that I'm working and making enough to live on but have SOOooooo much that needs to be bbought- like furniture and dishes/kitchenware! They didn't mind taking 200/mo from me when it should have been 50-60....we'll see if they juimp to enforce the guidelines now that it would work in their favor instead of mine.</p><p></p><p>And the people in the system wonder why kids don't get the fact that it's wrong to take advantage of others and not just take what you can from them, just because you can.</p><p></p><p>Going back to the last joke about difficult child's father and his righteousness- it's funny to me how he's the one with at least two kids while I only have one (both he claims were the result of a "woman duping him into it"), he's the one that lied and witheld the truth about hx in the situation prior to difficult child being conceived, and he's the one on his third marriage. And I wouldn't be a bit surprised if he does get pursued for CS if she covers for him. Ironically enough, both of them keep talk about religion on their limited public info on their FB pages. I don't know about her, but regarding him- I call that hypocrasy and to me that's pretty low. His day will come, one way or another. But it will never make up to difficult child what he should have had but didn't get. And I don't mean just financial support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 389648, member: 3699"] LOL! The closest we came to that was that difficult child really was an angel as an infant. It was between 18 mos and 2yo that he became a heandful to stay ahead of, then 11 when he became a difficult child. Interestly enough, I just got back from shopping (I'll update later about that- in a new thread) and found a forwarded piece of mail from DSS re MY CS. It says they have not rec'd payment from me in over 45 days and I am now past due for XXX amount, which is the amount I was paying for difficult child last year. I don't get how this works- when difficult child was committed 18 mos ago, I rec'd a notice to meet with them right before a CS hearibng in court. The meeting was for me to tell them my employment pay/unemployment status, etc, then we went into the court room for the judge to set the amount. I paid it off as I was supposed to so I owe them nothing from that since difficult child was released this past March. They never contacted me this year to update status or go to court to get a revised amount set. They never sent me anything saying to re-start paying the same amount. So I have no idea if they just didn't close out the CS from Spring and didn't document that I could stop paying then because difficult child had been released and they think I owe them for late spring and early summer (I be darned if I'm paying for the mos he was living at home with me) or if they are saying I should have automatically started paying 2 mos ago or whenever he was recommitted to Department of Juvenile Justice so now they just want me to start back paying that amount. That's fine but I have a feeling they have just gotten their records botched. A CW is supposed to call me next week since I raised such a fuss about them not going after difficult child's father or pursuing him while not hesitating to pursue me. I'll get it straight with her about which mos difficult child was officially in my custody or not. Since the judge set the amount last year and did not base it on income, maybe I'll get lucky and they'll be happy with keeping it the same amount. I'd be ecstatic if that turns out to be the case now that I'm working and making enough to live on but have SOOooooo much that needs to be bbought- like furniture and dishes/kitchenware! They didn't mind taking 200/mo from me when it should have been 50-60....we'll see if they juimp to enforce the guidelines now that it would work in their favor instead of mine. And the people in the system wonder why kids don't get the fact that it's wrong to take advantage of others and not just take what you can from them, just because you can. Going back to the last joke about difficult child's father and his righteousness- it's funny to me how he's the one with at least two kids while I only have one (both he claims were the result of a "woman duping him into it"), he's the one that lied and witheld the truth about hx in the situation prior to difficult child being conceived, and he's the one on his third marriage. And I wouldn't be a bit surprised if he does get pursued for CS if she covers for him. Ironically enough, both of them keep talk about religion on their limited public info on their FB pages. I don't know about her, but regarding him- I call that hypocrasy and to me that's pretty low. His day will come, one way or another. But it will never make up to difficult child what he should have had but didn't get. And I don't mean just financial support. [/QUOTE]
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