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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful parent" data-source="post: 758680" data-attributes="member: 21585"><p>I can relate to both of these posts. Except mine is my son. He is with a narcissist young woman, who turns him against us. They live a drug fuelled drama ridden life. I can't help my son as his girlfriend's family's enabling also works against us. I feel for both of you. My son is 40 and I have decided enough is enough. Leamac please don't berate yourself for not trying harder. I do this all the time. I go over and over what I have done wrong, what I should have done, but the truth is I can't do any more, or give anymore than I have, as I am sure you can't either. I try to chit chat with my son when he rings, then he asks for money, I say no, then I get called every disgusting name you can think of. The fact that you say you haven't seen your daughter for 3 years, actually gives me strength to cut ties with my son. Newstart, My son has also told us he could kill us. This is one of the reasons I have decided to cut ties completely with my son. As I believe this type of talk is dangerous. I think for our own sanity we need to do this. I know it is hard, but in my case, once I made the decision and I might add it has only been a couple of weeks, the first week I cried everyday like I was grieving, but this week I have started to settle down and accepted that this is what I must do. I have been practicing self care, mindfulness and yoga, visiting friends, getting my hair done and trying hard to be positive. I have decided that I have given 40 years to my son and it has not helped him, so now it is time to move on. Some of the stories from others on this site have helped me also. There is some good advice on here. Both of your stories are so similar to mine. It makes you wonder What is going on in today's society that is causing these problems. I wish you both the best, and hope we can help each other to be strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful parent, post: 758680, member: 21585"] I can relate to both of these posts. Except mine is my son. He is with a narcissist young woman, who turns him against us. They live a drug fuelled drama ridden life. I can't help my son as his girlfriend's family's enabling also works against us. I feel for both of you. My son is 40 and I have decided enough is enough. Leamac please don't berate yourself for not trying harder. I do this all the time. I go over and over what I have done wrong, what I should have done, but the truth is I can't do any more, or give anymore than I have, as I am sure you can't either. I try to chit chat with my son when he rings, then he asks for money, I say no, then I get called every disgusting name you can think of. The fact that you say you haven't seen your daughter for 3 years, actually gives me strength to cut ties with my son. Newstart, My son has also told us he could kill us. This is one of the reasons I have decided to cut ties completely with my son. As I believe this type of talk is dangerous. I think for our own sanity we need to do this. I know it is hard, but in my case, once I made the decision and I might add it has only been a couple of weeks, the first week I cried everyday like I was grieving, but this week I have started to settle down and accepted that this is what I must do. I have been practicing self care, mindfulness and yoga, visiting friends, getting my hair done and trying hard to be positive. I have decided that I have given 40 years to my son and it has not helped him, so now it is time to move on. Some of the stories from others on this site have helped me also. There is some good advice on here. Both of your stories are so similar to mine. It makes you wonder What is going on in today's society that is causing these problems. I wish you both the best, and hope we can help each other to be strong. [/QUOTE]
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