I was so happy to read that you got what was happening to you when you thought about posting about going to the Emergency room. Picking out the pattern of manipulation in the emails is stellar progress for you too, Strength.
Re: Exposing everyone on FB. difficult child kids typically want to tell the world about our rottenness. They want to use the information they have against us (that we were bad parents/that we are bad parents now because we refuse to help them) to humiliate us unless we pay to keep the secret of our badness.
It's convoluted reasoning.
I think that might be related to their therapists' responses to this kind of confession when they were teens? But they are grown ups, now....
That you and husband have a plan for when and how you would help is excellent. That is the one way I know of to go through this without destroying ourselves out of guilt and shame and pain. There truly is nothing we can do for a child who is drug addicted. It's like throwing money into a hole. There is never anything to show for it. They always want more. They come to hate you for the sake of the drug you refuse to pay for.
It totally sucks to have a drug addicted child. It sucks worse to have a drug addicted child who is an adult.
My son hates this site, too.
:O)
Cedar
