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Slleping with the doors locked and now difficult child left
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 166051" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkorchid">Yes, Star, I have changed. Yes, Jane, I think this may be my 'aha' moment. I just hung up with H and we talked some about it and thankfully, we're both on the same page with things. Niether of us want difficult child or anyone else in our home when we're not there. We're changing the backdoor lock and the garage door opening code. It has to be this way. I do realize that she may climb in a window, but I'm not ready for window locks at this time. I will, however, open the little 'stop' that is build into our new windows to prevent them from opening too much - maybe that will deter her for now. Not that I think she will even be coming home...I know that she likely wants us to chase her. Ain't happening. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkorchid">I have not seen difficult child as a victim of circumstance for the most part for a long time now. And in recent weeks, even less so. She's made bonified choices for herself, choices that she knows were wrong...but she can justify it in her little head to herself. At this point, she's not fooling anyone or lying to anyone but herself. H and I have finally turned on the lights in her heads and from now on things will be very different. We've turned a corner and I'm glad for it.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkorchid">Ironically, I am not angry. I'm a little hurt, but mostly I am relieved and resolved with these feelings I am having, I can't even put it into words. I KNOW she will be okay on her own. She's smart, she's resourceful (*she is my kid) and she's capable in many ways of making things happen for herself. KNOWING that she's capable is enough right now. I do not think she will end up in a shelter or under a bridge. I think if worse comes to worse, she will break down and go live with her dad in NY, which is fine with me. The more distance between us at this point, the better!!!</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkorchid">Thanks for the supportive posts - keep 'em coming. Please. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 166051, member: 2211"] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid]Yes, Star, I have changed. Yes, Jane, I think this may be my 'aha' moment. I just hung up with H and we talked some about it and thankfully, we're both on the same page with things. Niether of us want difficult child or anyone else in our home when we're not there. We're changing the backdoor lock and the garage door opening code. It has to be this way. I do realize that she may climb in a window, but I'm not ready for window locks at this time. I will, however, open the little 'stop' that is build into our new windows to prevent them from opening too much - maybe that will deter her for now. Not that I think she will even be coming home...I know that she likely wants us to chase her. Ain't happening. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid]I have not seen difficult child as a victim of circumstance for the most part for a long time now. And in recent weeks, even less so. She's made bonified choices for herself, choices that she knows were wrong...but she can justify it in her little head to herself. At this point, she's not fooling anyone or lying to anyone but herself. H and I have finally turned on the lights in her heads and from now on things will be very different. We've turned a corner and I'm glad for it.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid]Ironically, I am not angry. I'm a little hurt, but mostly I am relieved and resolved with these feelings I am having, I can't even put it into words. I KNOW she will be okay on her own. She's smart, she's resourceful (*she is my kid) and she's capable in many ways of making things happen for herself. KNOWING that she's capable is enough right now. I do not think she will end up in a shelter or under a bridge. I think if worse comes to worse, she will break down and go live with her dad in NY, which is fine with me. The more distance between us at this point, the better!!![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid]Thanks for the supportive posts - keep 'em coming. Please. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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