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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 510655" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>Good job. I am thinking about some of the advice we have gotten and wondering if maybe your H should not have gone to get him, honk the horn and get him to school. I think our counselor might have said that that negates the consequence of locking him out. He came home late, he did not find his own way to school - his problem. In much of the advice we have gotten - we are told to set up our bourdaries; ie. to live at home you must - 1 - not use drugs 2 - pass your CC classes 3 - be home by 12 on school nights, etc. The details of how they accomplish those things are up to them and we are not allowed to jump in and rescue. Not always easy to do - but something to remind yourself of. It's an effort to "push" them toward maturity and the ability to solve their own problems. There are two books that talk about kids like ours as having "delayed maturity" a nd the real fix is finding ways to push their maturity along - you may find "The Unchanged Mind" and "To Change a Mind" helpful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 510655, member: 12490"] Good job. I am thinking about some of the advice we have gotten and wondering if maybe your H should not have gone to get him, honk the horn and get him to school. I think our counselor might have said that that negates the consequence of locking him out. He came home late, he did not find his own way to school - his problem. In much of the advice we have gotten - we are told to set up our bourdaries; ie. to live at home you must - 1 - not use drugs 2 - pass your CC classes 3 - be home by 12 on school nights, etc. The details of how they accomplish those things are up to them and we are not allowed to jump in and rescue. Not always easy to do - but something to remind yourself of. It's an effort to "push" them toward maturity and the ability to solve their own problems. There are two books that talk about kids like ours as having "delayed maturity" a nd the real fix is finding ways to push their maturity along - you may find "The Unchanged Mind" and "To Change a Mind" helpful. [/QUOTE]
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