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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 733111" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you! I WILL honor his birthday!</p><p></p><p>I don't know if my sister needs me. She has a history of pushing me away in extreme ways. But then I would get very used to her gone and she would come back...so you could be right. I never came back. She did.</p><p></p><p> But I can't even consider her in my life because of the cops. It's a deal breaker. It is why I ended it. Her abusive boyfriend had broken into her house and was threatening her so I told her to call the cops. She said she couldn't, it would ruin his life, she wouldn't do that to him etc. I stammered "You think it was more worth it to call the cops on ME?" She said her final words to me when she said "At the time I did."</p><p></p><p>At the time? WHICH time? The first time? The tenth time? The twentieth time? She sounded as if she didn't even know she did it ALL the time. So I didn't matter to her she WOULD do it to me although I hadn't broken the law and I meant nothing to her, unlike this abuser. Or Narcicist, her diagnosis</p><p></p><p>That was it. That is still it.</p><p></p><p>If I am honest, my husband and I mentioned, when we decided to leave Illinois for Wisconsin, that one benefit would be that Sis couldn't call the cops anymore. It wasn't a big part of the decision, but it came up. And she called the cops anyway (shrug).</p><p></p><p>It can't happen again. The cops are done.</p><p></p><p>I still care about her so I checked the site. I could see that her sad life has not changed. She is addicted to heroin in the form of a man. I wish she would quit, but she won't. And I don't want to be a part of the addiction either. She speaks mostly about him. It is redundant and boring to listen to all the repetitive stories and to why she can't leave him due to a trauma bond. Whatever.</p><p></p><p>We have nothing to offer one another.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 733111, member: 1550"] Thank you! I WILL honor his birthday! I don't know if my sister needs me. She has a history of pushing me away in extreme ways. But then I would get very used to her gone and she would come back...so you could be right. I never came back. She did. But I can't even consider her in my life because of the cops. It's a deal breaker. It is why I ended it. Her abusive boyfriend had broken into her house and was threatening her so I told her to call the cops. She said she couldn't, it would ruin his life, she wouldn't do that to him etc. I stammered "You think it was more worth it to call the cops on ME?" She said her final words to me when she said "At the time I did." At the time? WHICH time? The first time? The tenth time? The twentieth time? She sounded as if she didn't even know she did it ALL the time. So I didn't matter to her she WOULD do it to me although I hadn't broken the law and I meant nothing to her, unlike this abuser. Or Narcicist, her diagnosis That was it. That is still it. If I am honest, my husband and I mentioned, when we decided to leave Illinois for Wisconsin, that one benefit would be that Sis couldn't call the cops anymore. It wasn't a big part of the decision, but it came up. And she called the cops anyway (shrug). It can't happen again. The cops are done. I still care about her so I checked the site. I could see that her sad life has not changed. She is addicted to heroin in the form of a man. I wish she would quit, but she won't. And I don't want to be a part of the addiction either. She speaks mostly about him. It is redundant and boring to listen to all the repetitive stories and to why she can't leave him due to a trauma bond. Whatever. We have nothing to offer one another. Thanks again for listening. [/QUOTE]
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