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So the hardest month will be December I predict
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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 639079" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Thank you so much MWM. Even though she is doing so much better, she really is, I am not naive enough to think a relapse won't happen. In fact, I'm darn skippy it will. I am glad you agree with me about not letting her onto my plans, I wasn't sure if that was the right thing to do, but now I am sure. And I am also sure that I will have no guilt. I am ready for it to happen. She had more than ample time and chances to prepare for this, lord knows I gave her years of warning which she all the sudden has amnesia about. I am happy that I can write this all down because it reminds me. She is so good at manipulating me. Anyway, we do have to live apart, that I am sure of, no matter what. She is very entitled , and that is about to get nip in the bud. It's just time is going SO slow. </p><p></p><p>I was thinking of the positives of having her best friend here, and one just popped into my mind. Should difficult child relapse and have an anger outburst towards me, she would NEVER hit me in front of her friends, especially this best friend, and this best friend would protect me too if it ever came to that. Plus, difficult child would never show that side of herself in front of her friends. Yes, she will scream and hollar at me in front of them if she got angry enough, but she would never lay a hand on me because she knows that hitting your mother puts you into misfit land with no friends. She did lose one good friend due to it before in the past, <strong><em><u>so she knows</u></em></strong>. So at least that's one good thing about having her friend here, I do feel protected.</p><p></p><p>There I found a positive. However, I would like to say, and remind myself that difficult child has been showing so much improvement and really doing well. She starts her new job on Wed. She's got things in order. Yeah, she got mad at me today about the moving thing, but she didn't take it to the next level. I was proud of her for restraining herself. This is all my PTSD talking and worrying about the what if's because I been there, I know. I just need to write these things out so I can remind myself to keep the boundries up, rules in place and the momentum going for a more positive future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 639079, member: 18233"] Thank you so much MWM. Even though she is doing so much better, she really is, I am not naive enough to think a relapse won't happen. In fact, I'm darn skippy it will. I am glad you agree with me about not letting her onto my plans, I wasn't sure if that was the right thing to do, but now I am sure. And I am also sure that I will have no guilt. I am ready for it to happen. She had more than ample time and chances to prepare for this, lord knows I gave her years of warning which she all the sudden has amnesia about. I am happy that I can write this all down because it reminds me. She is so good at manipulating me. Anyway, we do have to live apart, that I am sure of, no matter what. She is very entitled , and that is about to get nip in the bud. It's just time is going SO slow. I was thinking of the positives of having her best friend here, and one just popped into my mind. Should difficult child relapse and have an anger outburst towards me, she would NEVER hit me in front of her friends, especially this best friend, and this best friend would protect me too if it ever came to that. Plus, difficult child would never show that side of herself in front of her friends. Yes, she will scream and hollar at me in front of them if she got angry enough, but she would never lay a hand on me because she knows that hitting your mother puts you into misfit land with no friends. She did lose one good friend due to it before in the past, [B][I][U]so she knows[/U][/I][/B]. So at least that's one good thing about having her friend here, I do feel protected. There I found a positive. However, I would like to say, and remind myself that difficult child has been showing so much improvement and really doing well. She starts her new job on Wed. She's got things in order. Yeah, she got mad at me today about the moving thing, but she didn't take it to the next level. I was proud of her for restraining herself. This is all my PTSD talking and worrying about the what if's because I been there, I know. I just need to write these things out so I can remind myself to keep the boundries up, rules in place and the momentum going for a more positive future. [/QUOTE]
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