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<blockquote data-quote="Farmingmom" data-source="post: 648893" data-attributes="member: 18789"><p>How lovely to read how some of you guys are spending Valentine's Day. My hubby and I never went in for holidays when he was alive. We didn't do Valentine's Day, or buy each other Christmas presents, or even birthday presents, for that matter. However, it's days like today...when the whole world seems focused on couple-ness...(especially with all the kids gone and no one to talk to but the animals) that I tend to get kind of...blah...and I miss him more.</p><p></p><p>You'd think reading about everyone's plans for the holiday with their special someone would make it worse. But, it doesn't. It reminds me of all the times the rest of the world was running around, trying to do something special because the calendar rolled over to a set date, when hubby and I would just shake our heads. We opted more for the 'just because' stuff. Reading everyone's laid back, non-cliche plans for the day - and how much everyone is focused on just spending some downtime together reminds me of our approach to days like today...and all of the things I loved and appreciated him for.</p><p></p><p>He would randomly bring me a single rose for no reason - just because it's Tuesday or because he really enjoyed breakfast, or stop along the highway on his way home to pick the first wildflowers of spring so I could see them too, or he'd just call on his lunch hour to say 'I love you.' In turn, I'd leave random notes in his pockets when I folded the laundry, or call and have pizza delivered to him at lunchtime (so he could have mushrooms or peppers or some other grossness I wouldn't let near a pizza I was going to eat,) or shoo the kids outside early in the morning on his day off & leave a cup of coffee on the nightstand for him so he could have an hour of peace before starting the 'honey do' list. </p><p></p><p>I was very blessed to have him, even if we didn't get to grow old together. It's good to hear there are other people doing the kinds of things we would likely have done. It makes me so incredibly grateful that we never did place much emphasis on calendar dates and reminds me of what it felt like to know I was simply loved - not that he was pressured to do something because it was a holiday. Thanks for letting me take a peek into your lives...and remember what that felt like. It is a beautiful thing to know you are loved, no matter what day of the year it is. And I am ever so grateful that we never got into the commercialism of the holidays. Thanks for sharing your plans...betcha never knew it would help a grumpy widow feel better, did ya? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmingmom, post: 648893, member: 18789"] How lovely to read how some of you guys are spending Valentine's Day. My hubby and I never went in for holidays when he was alive. We didn't do Valentine's Day, or buy each other Christmas presents, or even birthday presents, for that matter. However, it's days like today...when the whole world seems focused on couple-ness...(especially with all the kids gone and no one to talk to but the animals) that I tend to get kind of...blah...and I miss him more. You'd think reading about everyone's plans for the holiday with their special someone would make it worse. But, it doesn't. It reminds me of all the times the rest of the world was running around, trying to do something special because the calendar rolled over to a set date, when hubby and I would just shake our heads. We opted more for the 'just because' stuff. Reading everyone's laid back, non-cliche plans for the day - and how much everyone is focused on just spending some downtime together reminds me of our approach to days like today...and all of the things I loved and appreciated him for. He would randomly bring me a single rose for no reason - just because it's Tuesday or because he really enjoyed breakfast, or stop along the highway on his way home to pick the first wildflowers of spring so I could see them too, or he'd just call on his lunch hour to say 'I love you.' In turn, I'd leave random notes in his pockets when I folded the laundry, or call and have pizza delivered to him at lunchtime (so he could have mushrooms or peppers or some other grossness I wouldn't let near a pizza I was going to eat,) or shoo the kids outside early in the morning on his day off & leave a cup of coffee on the nightstand for him so he could have an hour of peace before starting the 'honey do' list. I was very blessed to have him, even if we didn't get to grow old together. It's good to hear there are other people doing the kinds of things we would likely have done. It makes me so incredibly grateful that we never did place much emphasis on calendar dates and reminds me of what it felt like to know I was simply loved - not that he was pressured to do something because it was a holiday. Thanks for letting me take a peek into your lives...and remember what that felt like. It is a beautiful thing to know you are loved, no matter what day of the year it is. And I am ever so grateful that we never got into the commercialism of the holidays. Thanks for sharing your plans...betcha never knew it would help a grumpy widow feel better, did ya? :D :D :D :D :D [/QUOTE]
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