I just don't understand that. How is it "legal" for an adult to communicate with a minor, if the parent doesn't allow it? How can it not be a predatory action on her part?
I'm sorry it turned out that way, but it just doesn't smell right to me. You did the right thing! You're protecting your son. I don't understand how the system isn't standing with you on this. Not letting it eat at you is a great idea. I don't know if I could just sweep it under the rug. Injustice really drives me nuts.