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<blockquote data-quote="Go slow mama" data-source="post: 704702"><p>Okay, lots of bits and pieces that make sense to me and are helpful. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps I need to define my context a bit more...</p><p></p><p>My son still lives at home. I am not yet ready to have a conversation about him moving out, however that would look. If he chooses to leave, I will accept this and roll with it. But, for me, <em>right now </em>I am not ready to entertain otherwise removing him from my home. So I need ideas that work in this scenario, I need bottom lines and strategies for living with him now.</p><p></p><p>Here are the highlights of the season;</p><p></p><p>17 years old, half his required credit load when he should be graduating</p><p></p><p>Smokes weed constantly, likely selling it</p><p></p><p>Suspended from school for being verbally aggressive X2 with the same female teacher</p><p>No job</p><p></p><p>Girlfriend who has been here on the regular, not anymore, she ordered dial a bottle to the house and is massively disrespectful, passive aggressive and acts like a woman, steps to me</p><p></p><p>Girlfriend's mom does not know what to do, she sees her daughter for who she is and does not want her over at my place, she and I have good communicaton although she has sometimes been judgemental and/or shares information in a questionable manner, but we do work together</p><p></p><p>No trust in our relationship, I carry my purse around everywhere, in the washroom, I have a lock bar for my steering wheel after he stole my car</p><p></p><p>He is bullying, threatening but tacitly, responds when things are extreme and then relents when the pressue subsides, plays me, manipulates, lies and lies and lies, he thinks he's the boss</p><p></p><p>New empty booze bottles appear in his room regularly</p><p></p><p>I live in Canada, no drug testing here, no ability to force him into anything</p><p></p><p>Diagnosis of depression and conduct disorder, anxiety and insomnia</p><p></p><p>Outright defiance, in chief; won't tell me where he is going and won't keep me apprised of his whereabouts for safety purposes. He will answer if I call him, I pay for the phone...I don't call anymore because it felt gross and servile, begging</p><p></p><p>I could go on, but these are our parameters...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Go slow mama, post: 704702"] Okay, lots of bits and pieces that make sense to me and are helpful. Perhaps I need to define my context a bit more... My son still lives at home. I am not yet ready to have a conversation about him moving out, however that would look. If he chooses to leave, I will accept this and roll with it. But, for me, [I]right now [/I]I am not ready to entertain otherwise removing him from my home. So I need ideas that work in this scenario, I need bottom lines and strategies for living with him now. Here are the highlights of the season; 17 years old, half his required credit load when he should be graduating Smokes weed constantly, likely selling it Suspended from school for being verbally aggressive X2 with the same female teacher No job Girlfriend who has been here on the regular, not anymore, she ordered dial a bottle to the house and is massively disrespectful, passive aggressive and acts like a woman, steps to me Girlfriend's mom does not know what to do, she sees her daughter for who she is and does not want her over at my place, she and I have good communicaton although she has sometimes been judgemental and/or shares information in a questionable manner, but we do work together No trust in our relationship, I carry my purse around everywhere, in the washroom, I have a lock bar for my steering wheel after he stole my car He is bullying, threatening but tacitly, responds when things are extreme and then relents when the pressue subsides, plays me, manipulates, lies and lies and lies, he thinks he's the boss New empty booze bottles appear in his room regularly I live in Canada, no drug testing here, no ability to force him into anything Diagnosis of depression and conduct disorder, anxiety and insomnia Outright defiance, in chief; won't tell me where he is going and won't keep me apprised of his whereabouts for safety purposes. He will answer if I call him, I pay for the phone...I don't call anymore because it felt gross and servile, begging I could go on, but these are our parameters... [/QUOTE]
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