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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 740200" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>If I can be honest here I think when they are new in recovery they need a lot of help as their previously drug fogged minds are slowly emerging back to the real world of responsibilities we all have. This can be overwhelming at times so helping them at first with apartment hunting, furniture, grocery shopping...ect can be so overwhelming that they may need assistance.</p><p>At my job - working with Inner City Youth I can usually spot the ones that are freshly out of rehab or on probation and attending school is a requirement. With those youths I slowly build up a relationship with them - I do cut them breaks and allow them to go for a walk with me in the neighbourhood, I may purchase snacks for them, I understand they are "ansy" and sitting for hours in a classroom for the first few weeks is really difficult so I do everything in my power to keep them coming back for fear of losing them back to the streets forever. </p><p></p><p>So yes, I coddle them and overlook a lot of behaviours I wouldn't otherwise from students attending our school for a long time. I then slowly back away and allow them to become more independent when I see they are getting into a familiar routine. I think it's the same thing with our own children...help but then slowly back away allowing more responsibility when you are confident their mindset is becoming more focused and aware of the real world. Sadly, it doesn't work for all and some will be manipulative but overall for the ones that are really trying having someone who has their back can make the world of difference. Your son appears to be trying and for that I think you should be proud.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 740200, member: 19011"] If I can be honest here I think when they are new in recovery they need a lot of help as their previously drug fogged minds are slowly emerging back to the real world of responsibilities we all have. This can be overwhelming at times so helping them at first with apartment hunting, furniture, grocery shopping...ect can be so overwhelming that they may need assistance. At my job - working with Inner City Youth I can usually spot the ones that are freshly out of rehab or on probation and attending school is a requirement. With those youths I slowly build up a relationship with them - I do cut them breaks and allow them to go for a walk with me in the neighbourhood, I may purchase snacks for them, I understand they are "ansy" and sitting for hours in a classroom for the first few weeks is really difficult so I do everything in my power to keep them coming back for fear of losing them back to the streets forever. So yes, I coddle them and overlook a lot of behaviours I wouldn't otherwise from students attending our school for a long time. I then slowly back away and allow them to become more independent when I see they are getting into a familiar routine. I think it's the same thing with our own children...help but then slowly back away allowing more responsibility when you are confident their mindset is becoming more focused and aware of the real world. Sadly, it doesn't work for all and some will be manipulative but overall for the ones that are really trying having someone who has their back can make the world of difference. Your son appears to be trying and for that I think you should be proud. [/QUOTE]
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