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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 757085" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Nothing is good for addicts. The relapse rate is huge. Even with renowned rehabs. If the person doesn't want to be clean, nothing works. Not long term.</p><p></p><p>We got some guts after a decade and completely stopped giving our daughter a cent. We had bought her a house, a mobile home, paid rent when she lost both and bought her three cars, groceries and baby needs. It didn't help her one bit to enable her. She now lives in some state in an old camper. Her sister has her son, thank God.</p><p></p><p>I don't think most have to be taught living skills. They watch us every day and learn. Kay was just lazy. My other two knew houw to be an adult. We never sat them down and gave them lessons. We just showed them.</p><p></p><p>I think now that we make ourselves way too important in this. They know how to behave. They just won't do it. Or can't. Usually won't and if can't they refuse to get help to learn how to do better.</p><p></p><p>Easter came and went with no word from Kay. She didn't even call her son. But we had a family get together anyway, along with social distancing and masks, and we had fun without her.</p><p></p><p>Kay can never live with us again and we no longer give her things. So she cut us off. That proves to me that she doesn't love us. We have given her to God. He can do it and we can't.</p><p></p><p>Blessings to all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 757085, member: 23706"] Nothing is good for addicts. The relapse rate is huge. Even with renowned rehabs. If the person doesn't want to be clean, nothing works. Not long term. We got some guts after a decade and completely stopped giving our daughter a cent. We had bought her a house, a mobile home, paid rent when she lost both and bought her three cars, groceries and baby needs. It didn't help her one bit to enable her. She now lives in some state in an old camper. Her sister has her son, thank God. I don't think most have to be taught living skills. They watch us every day and learn. Kay was just lazy. My other two knew houw to be an adult. We never sat them down and gave them lessons. We just showed them. I think now that we make ourselves way too important in this. They know how to behave. They just won't do it. Or can't. Usually won't and if can't they refuse to get help to learn how to do better. Easter came and went with no word from Kay. She didn't even call her son. But we had a family get together anyway, along with social distancing and masks, and we had fun without her. Kay can never live with us again and we no longer give her things. So she cut us off. That proves to me that she doesn't love us. We have given her to God. He can do it and we can't. Blessings to all. [/QUOTE]
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