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Son attempted suicide last night
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 707637" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>These kids seem to have to revisit their trauma which many times mirrors the trauma and bad decisions of their parents as a means of understanding.</p><p></p><p>You know my own son is adopted, out of difficult circumstances. I watched in horror when he became homeless and marginal, as were his parents.</p><p></p><p>I cringe when I write this because there are people on this forum who look for any opening to cry "genetics" when there is resemblance in behavior between child and relative....While I do not deny genetic influences (how could I?) we as human beings have a driving need to understand as well. But more than this the need to repeat, the need to work through to one day, get it right. Over and over again we go down the same sketchy road retracing steps, until one day, the rainbow appears at the end. This is a symbolic journey, not a physiological one. Human genetics always co-occur with experience, and with that the capacity to make entirely different decisions, with the same genes.</p><p></p><p>Knowing what I know now I would encourage my son (and myself) to engage in any activity that involves the expressive arts, especially with a somatic component. If you are interested google "somatic therapies for trauma," or "expressive arts therapies." Trauma is held in the body for generations. Sometimes we carry the traumatic memories of our parents, or grandparents. I believe this.</p><p></p><p>Pigless. You are so strong. Every single thing you handle, and do so well. But your body, too, carries trauma. How could you not?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 707637, member: 18958"] These kids seem to have to revisit their trauma which many times mirrors the trauma and bad decisions of their parents as a means of understanding. You know my own son is adopted, out of difficult circumstances. I watched in horror when he became homeless and marginal, as were his parents. I cringe when I write this because there are people on this forum who look for any opening to cry "genetics" when there is resemblance in behavior between child and relative....While I do not deny genetic influences (how could I?) we as human beings have a driving need to understand as well. But more than this the need to repeat, the need to work through to one day, get it right. Over and over again we go down the same sketchy road retracing steps, until one day, the rainbow appears at the end. This is a symbolic journey, not a physiological one. Human genetics always co-occur with experience, and with that the capacity to make entirely different decisions, with the same genes. Knowing what I know now I would encourage my son (and myself) to engage in any activity that involves the expressive arts, especially with a somatic component. If you are interested google "somatic therapies for trauma," or "expressive arts therapies." Trauma is held in the body for generations. Sometimes we carry the traumatic memories of our parents, or grandparents. I believe this. Pigless. You are so strong. Every single thing you handle, and do so well. But your body, too, carries trauma. How could you not? [/QUOTE]
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