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Son attempted suicide last night
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 707700" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Our lowest lows can make us give up on ourselves (nobody can give up on ourselves but us) and we can also scream to ourselves and say "I wont let this defeat me!" Its easier to give up, I suppose, but I dont know first hand. I never gave up on me and I had/have a pretty serious now controlled mood disorder and many anxiety disorders. I made a conscious decision never to drink or take drugs because I knew they could only make things worse. This option is open to everyone. Mental illness does not force someone to drink too much or use drugs. Its just an easy way to temporarily blot out how you feel, but it stymies your functionality and motivation.</p><p></p><p>There is really no good excuse for using drugs or for refusing mental health treatment...the real kind, not the pretend kind of no therapy, pot, alcohol, any substances and making no progress. Self medication makes mental illness worse.</p><p></p><p>So does learned helplessness, where people start to believe that, for many reasons, they CANT do things for themselves. Maybe somebody has a serious disability, like autism. My autistic son accepts minimal help, lives alone, works, is happy and does better than many people who are not autistic. Its in the attitude. He makes great life choices and always tries his hardest. We can all do that.</p><p></p><p>I think some mentally ill people use that as an excise to quit trying and to guilting parents into taking care of them. I think its a mistake when parents allow their depressed or anxipus adult child to use those issues as excuses to refuse to work pr gain independence. Mentally ill people who are not schizpphrenic or psychptic can get help and live normal lives.</p><p></p><p>I think I did better because my parents were unwillimg to take care of me. I had to become functional even with severe depression and anxiety of every kind...nobody was going to care if I killed myself and I wanted to live, not die so I had to get serious and help myself. It was a gift ftom my parents that they never worried about me, although they didnt mean it to be a gift. It forced me to take care of myself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 707700, member: 1550"] Our lowest lows can make us give up on ourselves (nobody can give up on ourselves but us) and we can also scream to ourselves and say "I wont let this defeat me!" Its easier to give up, I suppose, but I dont know first hand. I never gave up on me and I had/have a pretty serious now controlled mood disorder and many anxiety disorders. I made a conscious decision never to drink or take drugs because I knew they could only make things worse. This option is open to everyone. Mental illness does not force someone to drink too much or use drugs. Its just an easy way to temporarily blot out how you feel, but it stymies your functionality and motivation. There is really no good excuse for using drugs or for refusing mental health treatment...the real kind, not the pretend kind of no therapy, pot, alcohol, any substances and making no progress. Self medication makes mental illness worse. So does learned helplessness, where people start to believe that, for many reasons, they CANT do things for themselves. Maybe somebody has a serious disability, like autism. My autistic son accepts minimal help, lives alone, works, is happy and does better than many people who are not autistic. Its in the attitude. He makes great life choices and always tries his hardest. We can all do that. I think some mentally ill people use that as an excise to quit trying and to guilting parents into taking care of them. I think its a mistake when parents allow their depressed or anxipus adult child to use those issues as excuses to refuse to work pr gain independence. Mentally ill people who are not schizpphrenic or psychptic can get help and live normal lives. I think I did better because my parents were unwillimg to take care of me. I had to become functional even with severe depression and anxiety of every kind...nobody was going to care if I killed myself and I wanted to live, not die so I had to get serious and help myself. It was a gift ftom my parents that they never worried about me, although they didnt mean it to be a gift. It forced me to take care of myself. [/QUOTE]
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