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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 102285" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I agree.</p><p></p><p>And it isn't about turning away or drawing lines in the sand or any of those things. If your son is determined to rebel against authority, then that is his choice. In the real world, choices have consequences. Whatever those consequences are, he will have to face up to them in the real world. Jail? He will get out eventually. But maybe Star, just maybe...he will do better without an authority figure to focus hostility on. </p><p></p><p>It's possible.</p><p></p><p>I remember those stupid treatment centers, too.</p><p></p><p>Nothing about them was real.</p><p></p><p>And they DO treat parents as though we are fools unable to manage our children and then, blame the child when they cannot "manage" them, either.</p><p></p><p>And if I were a kid with problems, what I would want to know more than anything else is what was real ~ what really matters?</p><p></p><p>How do I navigate in the world, and where the H am I navigating to?</p><p></p><p>Treatment centers are the worst thing, in my relatively informed opinion, for kids having problems understanding what matters or who they are in the real world.</p><p></p><p>Kids don't need to be "managed" so much as they need to know what is what.</p><p></p><p>The structured world of the treatment center (or the patronizing tone of most adult therapists when they are dealing with adolescents) is fake, so fake that of course any kid with a brain rebels.</p><p></p><p>So if you can, I think you should seriously consider Weeping Willow's suggestion.</p><p></p><p>It was a good one.</p><p></p><p>What a crummy morning for you already, Star.</p><p></p><p>I just had to chuckle when I read how DF reacted, though.</p><p></p><p>That is exactly what my husband used to say!</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 102285, member: 3353"] I agree. And it isn't about turning away or drawing lines in the sand or any of those things. If your son is determined to rebel against authority, then that is his choice. In the real world, choices have consequences. Whatever those consequences are, he will have to face up to them in the real world. Jail? He will get out eventually. But maybe Star, just maybe...he will do better without an authority figure to focus hostility on. It's possible. I remember those stupid treatment centers, too. Nothing about them was real. And they DO treat parents as though we are fools unable to manage our children and then, blame the child when they cannot "manage" them, either. And if I were a kid with problems, what I would want to know more than anything else is what was real ~ what really matters? How do I navigate in the world, and where the H am I navigating to? Treatment centers are the worst thing, in my relatively informed opinion, for kids having problems understanding what matters or who they are in the real world. Kids don't need to be "managed" so much as they need to know what is what. The structured world of the treatment center (or the patronizing tone of most adult therapists when they are dealing with adolescents) is fake, so fake that of course any kid with a brain rebels. So if you can, I think you should seriously consider Weeping Willow's suggestion. It was a good one. What a crummy morning for you already, Star. I just had to chuckle when I read how DF reacted, though. That is exactly what my husband used to say! :rofl: Barbara [/QUOTE]
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