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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 746629" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, if they make you take him home the first time he acts out call the police. Also call your Social Services before he gets home and ask if you have options. And start SSI. I dont want to say exactly where I live but I am in Wood/Portage county. If you are near by, you can send me a PM. I can maybe help if you live in that area since I had to learn what to do.</p><p></p><p>My older adopted son molested my littles. We refused to let him stay with us. They didnt fight us: they helped us. We got tons of free therapy and without him our family healed and bonded even closer and have thrived. He was dangerous.</p><p></p><p>The county put him on trial (not our idea...they never asked us about it)and found him guilty of first degree sexual assault of a minor. He was only 13 but the kids were six years younger than him so he was treated as an adult and put in a residential home/lock up for young sexual predators. </p><p></p><p>We had to pay child support but eventually they let us sever the adoption. He had to sign up as a sexual predator for years. I dont know if he still is supposed to or not, but we check and he has not so maybe he aged out of it. Or maybe he just refuses to sign up which is a felony if he gets caught.</p><p></p><p>We dont believe he never did it again. He has a FB page and I check it sometimes without posting. He married and has four toddlers and I cringe thinking about what happens to those poor babies when his wife is asleep. He is so good at scaring littles into silence. But I am scared of him. My hub and I refuse to get involved in any way. We moved and don't want him to know where we live. He is 27 now.</p><p></p><p>I think the cops and CPS thought he was too dangerous to live in a family so they took him with no fuss at us and were very kind.</p><p></p><p>My motto about adoption is, do adopt. My three other adopted kids are my heart, my true family, more bonded to me than DNA. But only adopt infants.</p><p></p><p> Older kids are a huge risk. My infant adopted kids may as well have been born to me...I cherish them. They love us. They are the best people ever.</p><p></p><p> This scary child came to us at 11 after five foster homes and he was finally diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Severe in the residential home. Older child adoptions are extremely prone to Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I adopted a six year old from Asia from an orphanage and he was not right attachment wise too. We thought we could give them love and that would heal them. That didnt work.</p><p></p><p>Even a year old can be too late. A year old child who has had no stable caregiver can have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).</p><p></p><p>I advise infant adoption.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and get me if you think I can help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 746629, member: 1550"] Well, if they make you take him home the first time he acts out call the police. Also call your Social Services before he gets home and ask if you have options. And start SSI. I dont want to say exactly where I live but I am in Wood/Portage county. If you are near by, you can send me a PM. I can maybe help if you live in that area since I had to learn what to do. My older adopted son molested my littles. We refused to let him stay with us. They didnt fight us: they helped us. We got tons of free therapy and without him our family healed and bonded even closer and have thrived. He was dangerous. The county put him on trial (not our idea...they never asked us about it)and found him guilty of first degree sexual assault of a minor. He was only 13 but the kids were six years younger than him so he was treated as an adult and put in a residential home/lock up for young sexual predators. We had to pay child support but eventually they let us sever the adoption. He had to sign up as a sexual predator for years. I dont know if he still is supposed to or not, but we check and he has not so maybe he aged out of it. Or maybe he just refuses to sign up which is a felony if he gets caught. We dont believe he never did it again. He has a FB page and I check it sometimes without posting. He married and has four toddlers and I cringe thinking about what happens to those poor babies when his wife is asleep. He is so good at scaring littles into silence. But I am scared of him. My hub and I refuse to get involved in any way. We moved and don't want him to know where we live. He is 27 now. I think the cops and CPS thought he was too dangerous to live in a family so they took him with no fuss at us and were very kind. My motto about adoption is, do adopt. My three other adopted kids are my heart, my true family, more bonded to me than DNA. But only adopt infants. Older kids are a huge risk. My infant adopted kids may as well have been born to me...I cherish them. They love us. They are the best people ever. This scary child came to us at 11 after five foster homes and he was finally diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Severe in the residential home. Older child adoptions are extremely prone to Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I adopted a six year old from Asia from an orphanage and he was not right attachment wise too. We thought we could give them love and that would heal them. That didnt work. Even a year old can be too late. A year old child who has had no stable caregiver can have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I advise infant adoption. Good luck and get me if you think I can help. [/QUOTE]
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