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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 550656"><p>Hi - First you are not a failure!!! He is 20 years old, and immature or not these are his decisions he is making. As they say in alanon, you didnt cause it, you cant control it, you cant cure it. It is up to him. It is heartbreaking and hurts our mommy hearts big time.</p><p></p><p>I think you are doing the right thing by not bailing him out and letting him sit in jail. Maybe a couple of weeks in jail will wake him up and make him realize he needs help.</p><p></p><p>I suggest if you haven't already that you find a parents support group, such as an alanon parents group. That has been a huge help to me.</p><p></p><p>I have also found people surprisingly supportive when I have told people. Many many people have someone in their lives with alcohol or drug addiction but noone talks about it... when you open up it is surprising how others will open up as well. At least that has been my experience. And yes there are some who judge, and those people are worth staying away from.</p><p></p><p>Keep coming here and posting... and read others stories and you will know you are not alone... there are lots of other good caring parents who have kids with similar problems... and thankfully some of us have found some community on this board.</p><p></p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 550656"] Hi - First you are not a failure!!! He is 20 years old, and immature or not these are his decisions he is making. As they say in alanon, you didnt cause it, you cant control it, you cant cure it. It is up to him. It is heartbreaking and hurts our mommy hearts big time. I think you are doing the right thing by not bailing him out and letting him sit in jail. Maybe a couple of weeks in jail will wake him up and make him realize he needs help. I suggest if you haven't already that you find a parents support group, such as an alanon parents group. That has been a huge help to me. I have also found people surprisingly supportive when I have told people. Many many people have someone in their lives with alcohol or drug addiction but noone talks about it... when you open up it is surprising how others will open up as well. At least that has been my experience. And yes there are some who judge, and those people are worth staying away from. Keep coming here and posting... and read others stories and you will know you are not alone... there are lots of other good caring parents who have kids with similar problems... and thankfully some of us have found some community on this board. TL [/QUOTE]
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