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son is being arrested as im writing this
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 702241" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Dance. So sorry for your pain. We get it all so well. </p><p>You've done all you can-actually over and above, it's now time for him to step up. I agree with RN in that the most powerful thought for me was that I really didn't want to be still living like this in 10 years. We had been in the mire with our son for most of his life. I do believe for me the most difficult mountain was that I just didn't know what he was capable of in regard to taking care of himself. I still don't. BUT he does know right from wrong, so he was choosing wrong over and over, in his treatment of us who were trying to help and in his choices. and then the drugs... Once that is an issue, it trumps everything else.</p><p></p><p> You handled this well. I can feel you "putting your foot down". The continued call-backs say that he thinks he can wear you down. Don't weaken, it's a hard spot. You told him you loved him and he is 21, high time he realize that he alone is responsible for his actions. This separation is painful but necessary. Remember that lying and manipulation go hand in hand with drug use. Please protect yourself in every way now. We rarely believe anything our son tells us unless we see proof, we don't ask him any questions we don't already know the answer to, so that we don't wonder. </p><p>The point you are at is so pain filled. There were times I felt "heart breaking" was actually physical to me. You can not save him. But you can save you. Do that. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 702241, member: 20054"] Hi Dance. So sorry for your pain. We get it all so well. You've done all you can-actually over and above, it's now time for him to step up. I agree with RN in that the most powerful thought for me was that I really didn't want to be still living like this in 10 years. We had been in the mire with our son for most of his life. I do believe for me the most difficult mountain was that I just didn't know what he was capable of in regard to taking care of himself. I still don't. BUT he does know right from wrong, so he was choosing wrong over and over, in his treatment of us who were trying to help and in his choices. and then the drugs... Once that is an issue, it trumps everything else. You handled this well. I can feel you "putting your foot down". The continued call-backs say that he thinks he can wear you down. Don't weaken, it's a hard spot. You told him you loved him and he is 21, high time he realize that he alone is responsible for his actions. This separation is painful but necessary. Remember that lying and manipulation go hand in hand with drug use. Please protect yourself in every way now. We rarely believe anything our son tells us unless we see proof, we don't ask him any questions we don't already know the answer to, so that we don't wonder. The point you are at is so pain filled. There were times I felt "heart breaking" was actually physical to me. You can not save him. But you can save you. Do that. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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