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Son is heroin addict but needs psychiatric help too
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<blockquote data-quote="jetsam" data-source="post: 702093" data-attributes="member: 20689"><p>hi tired, sorry for your pain. My son is 29. back at home again (long story ) also has a drug problem. He works, then loses job or quits (for whatever stupid reason works for him at the time) anyway I have worked very hard at learning to detach on an emotional level.. much more difficult to do since he is at home. But we can detach! The more i find my own life ,doing things for me, and the less i focus on him the better i feel! also, my son feels the change and seems to be adjusting to it. He asks for less of my help, and seems to be clumsily trying to find a way to get it together. He is nowhere near being self sufficient (and won't till he is out of my home) but he knows the day is coming...we are moving in june and he knows we will not let him come with us. I hope he sees that homelessness is in his future if he doesn't get his $#&* together, but I know i can't do anything to make him get it. I ,like you, pray he does get it before the drugs take away his choice. He had troubles since grade school. Psychiatrists diagnosed ADHD, but that was it! My husband and i told them we felt there was more going on (mental illness) but my son was a masterful manipulator already at an early age (very bright) so the doctors. would just blow us off! and we went to several over the years! We did therapy as well. so don't beat urself up...sometimes no matter what you do you cannot change the outcome. The only thing that seems to be helping both my son and myself , is my detaching. Forcing him to take responsibility for his actions, and my not accepting his unacceptable behaviors</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jetsam, post: 702093, member: 20689"] hi tired, sorry for your pain. My son is 29. back at home again (long story ) also has a drug problem. He works, then loses job or quits (for whatever stupid reason works for him at the time) anyway I have worked very hard at learning to detach on an emotional level.. much more difficult to do since he is at home. But we can detach! The more i find my own life ,doing things for me, and the less i focus on him the better i feel! also, my son feels the change and seems to be adjusting to it. He asks for less of my help, and seems to be clumsily trying to find a way to get it together. He is nowhere near being self sufficient (and won't till he is out of my home) but he knows the day is coming...we are moving in june and he knows we will not let him come with us. I hope he sees that homelessness is in his future if he doesn't get his $#&* together, but I know i can't do anything to make him get it. I ,like you, pray he does get it before the drugs take away his choice. He had troubles since grade school. Psychiatrists diagnosed ADHD, but that was it! My husband and i told them we felt there was more going on (mental illness) but my son was a masterful manipulator already at an early age (very bright) so the doctors. would just blow us off! and we went to several over the years! We did therapy as well. so don't beat urself up...sometimes no matter what you do you cannot change the outcome. The only thing that seems to be helping both my son and myself , is my detaching. Forcing him to take responsibility for his actions, and my not accepting his unacceptable behaviors [/QUOTE]
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