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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 763614" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Copa,</p><p>I hope your arm is healing well.</p><p></p><p>It is sorrowful, and I am sad and tired. It’s one of those days where it is hard to “fake it till I make it.” Not going to lie, and I think most of us understand this <em>ongoing</em> struggle to maintain some sort of normalcy and balance. </p><p>I write here to remind myself of what I need to do as much as to encourage others to try their best to live well. But, some days the protective “bubble” around my heart bursts, and I have to have a good cry. And that’s okay. We love our adult children and want the best for them, but they have to want it too. Truthfully, I really despise psychological labels like “co-dependency.” I know it describes the desperate situation of not having boundaries and enabling. But dammit, we have been heart trained from conception, birth, adoption, whatever method these kids came under our watch care, we have as Moms literally given our all to help them grow. How do we throw down the towel, as they destroy their own lives? It takes a monumental effort and much trial and error to stay out of the rabbit hole. I get how Helpless is feeling, because we all are “helpless” when it comes to these awful choices our wayward’s make. I will always have to work hard at my own “recovery” from thinking that anything I could do, would make a difference in their lives. I believe at least for my two daughters, that they stay where they are, on the streets, surrounded by like minded people, because they are accepted “as is.” Meth and the lifestyle is more important to them than <em>anything</em> or, <em>anybody. </em>I look at my two year old beautiful grandson and am beyond appalled by the fact that his mother was using meth and God only knows what else up until a <em>week</em> before giving birth. Now I am mad, as well as sad. I will cycle through these feelings and try with all my might to rise up. It makes no sense to lose my joy and sanity while my two live as they do. That’s three lives wasted. </p><p>Dealing with “It is what it is”. Didn’t cause it, can’t control it or change it. They will choose as they do, so I have to make a choice either to languish along with them, or live my life.</p><p> I choose life. Not always easy, but necessary.</p><p>Love to all. Keep up the fight.</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 763614, member: 19522"] Hi Copa, I hope your arm is healing well. It is sorrowful, and I am sad and tired. It’s one of those days where it is hard to “fake it till I make it.” Not going to lie, and I think most of us understand this [I]ongoing[/I] struggle to maintain some sort of normalcy and balance. I write here to remind myself of what I need to do as much as to encourage others to try their best to live well. But, some days the protective “bubble” around my heart bursts, and I have to have a good cry. And that’s okay. We love our adult children and want the best for them, but they have to want it too. Truthfully, I really despise psychological labels like “co-dependency.” I know it describes the desperate situation of not having boundaries and enabling. But dammit, we have been heart trained from conception, birth, adoption, whatever method these kids came under our watch care, we have as Moms literally given our all to help them grow. How do we throw down the towel, as they destroy their own lives? It takes a monumental effort and much trial and error to stay out of the rabbit hole. I get how Helpless is feeling, because we all are “helpless” when it comes to these awful choices our wayward’s make. I will always have to work hard at my own “recovery” from thinking that anything I could do, would make a difference in their lives. I believe at least for my two daughters, that they stay where they are, on the streets, surrounded by like minded people, because they are accepted “as is.” Meth and the lifestyle is more important to them than [I]anything[/I] or, [I]anybody. [/I]I look at my two year old beautiful grandson and am beyond appalled by the fact that his mother was using meth and God only knows what else up until a [I]week[/I] before giving birth. Now I am mad, as well as sad. I will cycle through these feelings and try with all my might to rise up. It makes no sense to lose my joy and sanity while my two live as they do. That’s three lives wasted. Dealing with “It is what it is”. Didn’t cause it, can’t control it or change it. They will choose as they do, so I have to make a choice either to languish along with them, or live my life. I choose life. Not always easy, but necessary. Love to all. Keep up the fight. Leaf [/QUOTE]
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