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son laying guilt - he's great at it!
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 679489" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I think that was very insightful about your hopes for college. Our dream for our son to go to college was the reason he moved back home, and to his credit he got straight A's that one semester. But he had shown a long-term sea change in his behavior and his outlook before we made that offer...and it didn't take long before he reverted to his old ways. He doesn't live here and won't live here again, but we will cover his tuition IF he keeps his grades up.</p><p></p><p>Is it possible to put the ball back in his court? "You want to go back to school? Great! Get that thing with the Dean straightened out and take a class this summer. If you do well, we will revisit a little financial assistance in the fall." You never know. He might surprise you. It's no risk if he's on a prepaid plan, and if he's just trying to use your hopes for him to get $ and can't be bothered with doing the legwork, you will know that and know not to listen to that particular ploy anymore.</p><p></p><p>I feel exactly what you are telling yourself. In any other world, helping with college would generally be a GOOD thing. But here in the rabbit hole things get all turned around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 679489, member: 17720"] I think that was very insightful about your hopes for college. Our dream for our son to go to college was the reason he moved back home, and to his credit he got straight A's that one semester. But he had shown a long-term sea change in his behavior and his outlook before we made that offer...and it didn't take long before he reverted to his old ways. He doesn't live here and won't live here again, but we will cover his tuition IF he keeps his grades up. Is it possible to put the ball back in his court? "You want to go back to school? Great! Get that thing with the Dean straightened out and take a class this summer. If you do well, we will revisit a little financial assistance in the fall." You never know. He might surprise you. It's no risk if he's on a prepaid plan, and if he's just trying to use your hopes for him to get $ and can't be bothered with doing the legwork, you will know that and know not to listen to that particular ploy anymore. I feel exactly what you are telling yourself. In any other world, helping with college would generally be a GOOD thing. But here in the rabbit hole things get all turned around. [/QUOTE]
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