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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 681047" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Probably not.</p><p></p><p>You say hes never given you any trouble. Does he have anything unusual in his past at all? If not, suspect he is under the spell of the girl for now. Or maybe he is being badly influenced in college. Are you paying for college?</p><p></p><p>I am not judging you so dont take it that way but I NEVER tell my grown kids what to do. I figure they dont want my input and will learn from their own mistskes. That doesnt mean though that your son is being nice or reasonable.</p><p></p><p>If he lives on his own on his own dime there is nothing you can do. If not, you can do what my ex recently did to one of our kids who was ignoring him. Im not saying this is a good idea but it worked for him. He sent him a certified letter informing him that since he no longer seems to want to be his son, he is writing him out of his will and that the letter is stage one. He heard back fast...lol. He has money.</p><p></p><p>You can try a slight variation of what my ex wrote.</p><p>In your case you can wait it out or send a similar letter explaining you will no longer be paying his bills (if you are) since you are no longer able to communicate with him.</p><p>I actually think trying too hard, as in beseeching letters, make them lose respect for us and make them feel all powerful over us. It doesnt work.</p><p>My first choice would be to wait it out but if you are paying his bills, you can choose to no longer do it. Once you stop, he'll be in touch. This is not nice of him. Even if the girl is telling him to do it, he is making the decision to agree to mistreat you</p><p>So its his choice in the end..</p><p>Hope it works out soon. I think it will resolve eventually.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 681047, member: 1550"] Probably not. You say hes never given you any trouble. Does he have anything unusual in his past at all? If not, suspect he is under the spell of the girl for now. Or maybe he is being badly influenced in college. Are you paying for college? I am not judging you so dont take it that way but I NEVER tell my grown kids what to do. I figure they dont want my input and will learn from their own mistskes. That doesnt mean though that your son is being nice or reasonable. If he lives on his own on his own dime there is nothing you can do. If not, you can do what my ex recently did to one of our kids who was ignoring him. Im not saying this is a good idea but it worked for him. He sent him a certified letter informing him that since he no longer seems to want to be his son, he is writing him out of his will and that the letter is stage one. He heard back fast...lol. He has money. You can try a slight variation of what my ex wrote. In your case you can wait it out or send a similar letter explaining you will no longer be paying his bills (if you are) since you are no longer able to communicate with him. I actually think trying too hard, as in beseeching letters, make them lose respect for us and make them feel all powerful over us. It doesnt work. My first choice would be to wait it out but if you are paying his bills, you can choose to no longer do it. Once you stop, he'll be in touch. This is not nice of him. Even if the girl is telling him to do it, he is making the decision to agree to mistreat you So its his choice in the end.. Hope it works out soon. I think it will resolve eventually. [/QUOTE]
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