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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 763638" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hello Helpless,</p><p>I am so sorry for all you are going through. It is such a difficult journey for us parents. </p><p></p><p>This has always been hard for me, when my daughter asks to come home, and I have to say no. It hurts. My reality is the same as yours, drug problem, needs treatment, the whole shebang. We went through years of trying to "help" my two, but it was to no avail. The drama and chaos that goes along with drug use is unacceptable. It is still hard to say no. The material things we have, came through hard work and trying our darnedest to make the right choices. Our adult kids have no right to try to guilt us for working hard to have a roof over our heads.</p><p></p><p>Geez. Really. My daughters pretty much said the same kinds of things to me, even told me they are the way they are, because of me. It is amazing and extremely sad and maddening at the same time, how our addicted adult children twist the narrative to try to keep us in the FOG. I think that they are trying to convince themselves that we are the "bad guy" in all of this. It helps them to keep living as they do. </p><p></p><p>Im sorry, Helpless. It's hard enough dealing with life's daily stressors. Going through a week with no contact and mothers catastrophic thoughts working overtime, then to have contact like this. I have been there, too, and still go through some very rough patches. </p><p></p><p>Im sorry your son is not ready to get help. I'm glad that you and your husband are on the same page as far as not sending money. How I do hate this reality for all of us here. It is a deep hurt to see our beloveds making horrendous choices. Sometimes, I just have to let the sadness out, before it swallows me whole. Sometimes I feel so angry. I know that I have to keep moving and work it out physically, otherwise, I just keep reeling those tapes and I start to feel that empty feeling, that everything and nothing feeling. There are days where I have to "fake it till I make it." Then, I have to remember that I gave my two in prayer to God, and pray with all of my heart that they will find themselves again. That usually helps me breathe and center myself. I hope that you can find ways to soothe your aching mommas heart, Helpless. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry Copa. Sending you both love and gentle hugs. </p><p>May God help us through this.</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 763638, member: 19522"] Hello Helpless, I am so sorry for all you are going through. It is such a difficult journey for us parents. This has always been hard for me, when my daughter asks to come home, and I have to say no. It hurts. My reality is the same as yours, drug problem, needs treatment, the whole shebang. We went through years of trying to "help" my two, but it was to no avail. The drama and chaos that goes along with drug use is unacceptable. It is still hard to say no. The material things we have, came through hard work and trying our darnedest to make the right choices. Our adult kids have no right to try to guilt us for working hard to have a roof over our heads. Geez. Really. My daughters pretty much said the same kinds of things to me, even told me they are the way they are, because of me. It is amazing and extremely sad and maddening at the same time, how our addicted adult children twist the narrative to try to keep us in the FOG. I think that they are trying to convince themselves that we are the "bad guy" in all of this. It helps them to keep living as they do. Im sorry, Helpless. It's hard enough dealing with life's daily stressors. Going through a week with no contact and mothers catastrophic thoughts working overtime, then to have contact like this. I have been there, too, and still go through some very rough patches. Im sorry your son is not ready to get help. I'm glad that you and your husband are on the same page as far as not sending money. How I do hate this reality for all of us here. It is a deep hurt to see our beloveds making horrendous choices. Sometimes, I just have to let the sadness out, before it swallows me whole. Sometimes I feel so angry. I know that I have to keep moving and work it out physically, otherwise, I just keep reeling those tapes and I start to feel that empty feeling, that everything and nothing feeling. There are days where I have to "fake it till I make it." Then, I have to remember that I gave my two in prayer to God, and pray with all of my heart that they will find themselves again. That usually helps me breathe and center myself. I hope that you can find ways to soothe your aching mommas heart, Helpless. I am so sorry Copa. Sending you both love and gentle hugs. May God help us through this. Leaf [/QUOTE]
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