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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751070" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome Shiggins.</p><p></p><p>I had a couple of suggestions off the bat. But first I want to tell you how sorry I am that you are going through something so difficult, and unable to find (so far) professional help that is making a difference.</p><p></p><p>First, I would remove all sharp and dangerous items from the house, no matter how inconvenient. All knives, scissors, tools, etc. should be where he cannot have access to them.</p><p></p><p>Second, I would immediately research where there is a Regional Children's Hospital near you. They will have a Child Development Department. This is a team of neuropsychologist, psychiatrist, social worker, etc. who will evaluate your child. I would go to your pediatrician and get a referral to a child neuropsychologist, and even if I had to travel several hours I would go. I would try to see a child neurologist, too, at the Children's Hospital. In other words, I would throw the book at trying to get an accurate sense of what is going on. We don't know now what it is. Is it sensory? Is he on the autism spectrum? What is it? That is what these qualified professionals will consider. I think it is a very positive thing that he responded to the melatonin and became a normal, loving child for that period. To me that suggests that that could well be him, underneath all this other behavior. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like something is distressing him.</p><p></p><p>Finally, there is another mother posting right now. Her name is B'smom. Her situation is very, very like your own. Her son is very aggressive and is targeting her. There are a lot of suggestions on her threads. I might go back and start with her initial posts.</p><p></p><p>I will close with this: Nothing could ever be as hard as what you are going through. Do you have support? Do you have respite? Do you have a therapist? Have you been able to go to work? Do you have time for yourself, to be with friends, and to have fun? Finding a way to give yourself space to breathe, to take a walk, to garden, whatever, is imperative.</p><p></p><p>What are your plans for school for your son? In the US he can be evaluated for inclusion in Special Education Services at his age (before he starts school) and he can have an IEP. This will qualify him for services. Your best shot would be to get an advocate. We can talk about that later. My own son at age 4 went to a behavioral nursery school for emotionally disturbed children. It was wonderful and it was free. </p><p></p><p>I have a question. Were there any irregularities in your pre-natal period, son's birth or early months? I have become involved with a program that works with parents and children centered on this sensitive period and they work with babies and children, their parents and families. </p><p></p><p>Take care. I hope you keep posting. I am glad you are here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751070, member: 18958"] Welcome Shiggins. I had a couple of suggestions off the bat. But first I want to tell you how sorry I am that you are going through something so difficult, and unable to find (so far) professional help that is making a difference. First, I would remove all sharp and dangerous items from the house, no matter how inconvenient. All knives, scissors, tools, etc. should be where he cannot have access to them. Second, I would immediately research where there is a Regional Children's Hospital near you. They will have a Child Development Department. This is a team of neuropsychologist, psychiatrist, social worker, etc. who will evaluate your child. I would go to your pediatrician and get a referral to a child neuropsychologist, and even if I had to travel several hours I would go. I would try to see a child neurologist, too, at the Children's Hospital. In other words, I would throw the book at trying to get an accurate sense of what is going on. We don't know now what it is. Is it sensory? Is he on the autism spectrum? What is it? That is what these qualified professionals will consider. I think it is a very positive thing that he responded to the melatonin and became a normal, loving child for that period. To me that suggests that that could well be him, underneath all this other behavior. It sounds like something is distressing him. Finally, there is another mother posting right now. Her name is B'smom. Her situation is very, very like your own. Her son is very aggressive and is targeting her. There are a lot of suggestions on her threads. I might go back and start with her initial posts. I will close with this: Nothing could ever be as hard as what you are going through. Do you have support? Do you have respite? Do you have a therapist? Have you been able to go to work? Do you have time for yourself, to be with friends, and to have fun? Finding a way to give yourself space to breathe, to take a walk, to garden, whatever, is imperative. What are your plans for school for your son? In the US he can be evaluated for inclusion in Special Education Services at his age (before he starts school) and he can have an IEP. This will qualify him for services. Your best shot would be to get an advocate. We can talk about that later. My own son at age 4 went to a behavioral nursery school for emotionally disturbed children. It was wonderful and it was free. I have a question. Were there any irregularities in your pre-natal period, son's birth or early months? I have become involved with a program that works with parents and children centered on this sensitive period and they work with babies and children, their parents and families. Take care. I hope you keep posting. I am glad you are here. [/QUOTE]
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