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<blockquote data-quote="Coffee Lover" data-source="post: 710264" data-attributes="member: 21380"><p>When I started reading this, I was worried this was going to end with something awful happening to/around you. So I guess, first of all, he's at least making some sort of progress if it was solely verbal and he seemed to worth through it then accept responsibility and a plan in a relatively short time period. That's saying a lot about all you're doing, he's clearly hearing it! </p><p></p><p>My son is only 11. But he does get angry and it sometimes escalates to him screaming/throwing things. If we're close by and try to intervene, we can get hurt by flying objects or him flailing his body but he doesn't go after us - does that make sense? But I too have noticed that its almost like he needs to just vent and get the anger out, then he can calm himself and process things out and move on once he's accepted it all. </p><p></p><p>I guess I wouldn't be worried if he was acting like nothing happened, I mean, he got it sorted out and made his plan. As long as he follows through and pays the ticket, my hope in your situation would be that he learns and moves on. That's how I view our outbursts. </p><p></p><p>But the part that bothers me is how often he will not also come and own up to the anger and how it scared us. Sometimes he will apologize and genuinely seems to understand that while venting in some form is needed, his violent outbursts are not the way to go. But other times he acts as if those outbursts either didn't happen or aren't a big deal. I wish he would own up to those more and start working with me on them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Coffee Lover, post: 710264, member: 21380"] When I started reading this, I was worried this was going to end with something awful happening to/around you. So I guess, first of all, he's at least making some sort of progress if it was solely verbal and he seemed to worth through it then accept responsibility and a plan in a relatively short time period. That's saying a lot about all you're doing, he's clearly hearing it! My son is only 11. But he does get angry and it sometimes escalates to him screaming/throwing things. If we're close by and try to intervene, we can get hurt by flying objects or him flailing his body but he doesn't go after us - does that make sense? But I too have noticed that its almost like he needs to just vent and get the anger out, then he can calm himself and process things out and move on once he's accepted it all. I guess I wouldn't be worried if he was acting like nothing happened, I mean, he got it sorted out and made his plan. As long as he follows through and pays the ticket, my hope in your situation would be that he learns and moves on. That's how I view our outbursts. But the part that bothers me is how often he will not also come and own up to the anger and how it scared us. Sometimes he will apologize and genuinely seems to understand that while venting in some form is needed, his violent outbursts are not the way to go. But other times he acts as if those outbursts either didn't happen or aren't a big deal. I wish he would own up to those more and start working with me on them. [/QUOTE]
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