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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 765498" data-attributes="member: 19522">Just got off the phone with my friend who is a prison guard. It was good to talk with him to get a better understanding of what life is like for my daughter while she is in there. Just thought I would share with you guys because he was super supportive and reassuring from his perspective. Tornado is well known amongst the guards and will get a spot on the work line as soon as it’s available. She will earn a small stipend and it will be enough to cover small items. That’s good. He said that after working over 20 years as a guard he has heard it all. He hears inmates on the phone trying to guilt trip their parents all the time. He also said that meth withdrawal is not the same as heroin, they don’t get sick, it is mostly the jonesing to get high and get a dopamine release, because with long term use, the brain doesn’t work as it should. “You have to keep boundaries, that’s a healthy reasonable response to drug use.”Of course I know this, but the affirmation is comforting. So, I am staying the course as far as no money on the books, will communicate with Tornado with the boundary that if she becomes manipulative, the phone call will end. I will forever be working on finding healthy ways to deal with my emotions as far as my two go. It’s not as much of a deep dive as years past, but&nbsp; I still get caught up with the sadness of their choices and lifestyle. It definitely stops me in my tracks for a bit.May God help us all work through the challenges we face.Thank you all for your kindness. I so appreciate your support.New Leaf</blockquote>

[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 765498, member: 19522"] Just got off the phone with my friend who is a prison guard. It was good to talk with him to get a better understanding of what life is like for my daughter while she is in there. Just thought I would share with you guys because he was super supportive and reassuring from his perspective. Tornado is well known amongst the guards and will get a spot on the work line as soon as it’s available. She will earn a small stipend and it will be enough to cover small items. That’s good. He said that after working over 20 years as a guard he has heard it all. He hears inmates on the phone trying to guilt trip their parents all the time. He also said that meth withdrawal is not the same as heroin, they don’t get sick, it is mostly the jonesing to get high and get a dopamine release, because with long term use, the brain doesn’t work as it should. “You have to keep boundaries, that’s a healthy reasonable response to drug use.” Of course I know this, but the affirmation is comforting. So, I am staying the course as far as no money on the books, will communicate with Tornado with the boundary that if she becomes manipulative, the phone call will end. I will forever be working on finding healthy ways to deal with my emotions as far as my two go. It’s not as much of a deep dive as years past, but I still get caught up with the sadness of their choices and lifestyle. It definitely stops me in my tracks for a bit. May God help us all work through the challenges we face. Thank you all for your kindness. I so appreciate your support. New Leaf [/QUOTE]

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