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Spoke to the nurse at the Child & Family Clinic today
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 590728" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>WTW, you are doing a wonderful job, really. The best any of us can do under these extreme circumstances we all find ourselves in. It is very tiring to try to help someone who is actively running in the opposite direction. For me, as most of us, it's quite a process for US to learn how to let go. They pretty much continue the same behaviors, it's US who change. </p><p></p><p>I actually wouldn't call it resignation, I think it's surrendering to the truth, accepting what is. It is what it is. Accepting what is, is the challenge. And, the helplessness/powerlessness is REAL, it is exactly the truth. It is our human and very tight hold on control, with a capital C, which keeps us relentlessly trying to fix or change something that we cannot fix or change. When it is in the realm of our children, our beloved babies, then that control multiplies. Buddha said, the cause of all our suffering is our <em>attachments</em>. Interesting thought provoking statement don't you think? And whom are we more attached to then our kids. So, detaching from them can be the work of a lifetime, perhaps our most difficult and horrifying leap into complete powerlessness and fear. And, that is for sure, a process. One step at a time, just like you're doing. Hang in there..............hugs..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 590728, member: 13542"] WTW, you are doing a wonderful job, really. The best any of us can do under these extreme circumstances we all find ourselves in. It is very tiring to try to help someone who is actively running in the opposite direction. For me, as most of us, it's quite a process for US to learn how to let go. They pretty much continue the same behaviors, it's US who change. I actually wouldn't call it resignation, I think it's surrendering to the truth, accepting what is. It is what it is. Accepting what is, is the challenge. And, the helplessness/powerlessness is REAL, it is exactly the truth. It is our human and very tight hold on control, with a capital C, which keeps us relentlessly trying to fix or change something that we cannot fix or change. When it is in the realm of our children, our beloved babies, then that control multiplies. Buddha said, the cause of all our suffering is our [I]attachments[/I]. Interesting thought provoking statement don't you think? And whom are we more attached to then our kids. So, detaching from them can be the work of a lifetime, perhaps our most difficult and horrifying leap into complete powerlessness and fear. And, that is for sure, a process. One step at a time, just like you're doing. Hang in there..............hugs.......... [/QUOTE]
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