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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764917" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I echo these words. They are beautiful. And just what we need.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are suffering. I suffer too. But I try to catch myself, and sometimes I can avoid falling into the pit. So much of what you describe with your daughter sounds related to addiction. Addiction takes over a personality. Addiction eclipses the person you raised. Addiction speaks. I am not saying there aren't other factors, how could I? </p><p></p><p>But it is as if your child has been hijacked. In so many ways we would be so much better if we could remember that. And to try to not take it personally, to the same degree. Of course, we take it personally. How could we not? But we are not seen by our children as whole people. They see us in terms of their own needs. They deflect their self-blame and self-hatred onto us. You see what I mean? We end up catching all these rotten eggs, that we don't deserve. Why accept them? We have a choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764917, member: 18958"] I echo these words. They are beautiful. And just what we need. I am so sorry you are suffering. I suffer too. But I try to catch myself, and sometimes I can avoid falling into the pit. So much of what you describe with your daughter sounds related to addiction. Addiction takes over a personality. Addiction eclipses the person you raised. Addiction speaks. I am not saying there aren't other factors, how could I? But it is as if your child has been hijacked. In so many ways we would be so much better if we could remember that. And to try to not take it personally, to the same degree. Of course, we take it personally. How could we not? But we are not seen by our children as whole people. They see us in terms of their own needs. They deflect their self-blame and self-hatred onto us. You see what I mean? We end up catching all these rotten eggs, that we don't deserve. Why accept them? We have a choice. [/QUOTE]
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