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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 544053" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I found out I had a half brother several years ago when my dad suddenly decided to tell us because he thought he was going to die from some medical condition and decided it was time he met his son and we our brother.What made this even worse is that he was born while my parents were married, in between myself and my younger sister. When I heard the news I wasn't shocked, there was always some secret in the family about some boy, my parents had three boys so any talk of a boy had to be someone else. I was intrigued so I agreed to meet him with my dad at a restaurant. He was nice enough but didn't look at all like anyone from our family and it was hard for me to accept the fact as true. I also resented his mother very much for doing this to my mother and our family and it renewed a lot of negative feelings I had toward my dad. Supposedly he supported the son until he was 18 but I really have no idea if that is true.</p><p></p><p>Anyway after dad opened the can of wroms he decided he didn't want any contact with his son and left me to pick up the pieces. I continued to communicate and met a few times with my brother over the next year but it caused many problems with my sister who refused to meet him or want to know anything about him and my own family with my easy child angry at grandpa and threatened with my friendship with him as if I was cheating on husband. I ended up cutting off communication and wished my dad had left it alone. I am still angry that he did that just to serve his curiosity.</p><p></p><p>difficult child once told me she wished we had kept her adoption a secret. Of course we couldn;t do that but it does point out the complexities of these situations and the emotional turmoil that comes with it.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 544053, member: 59"] I found out I had a half brother several years ago when my dad suddenly decided to tell us because he thought he was going to die from some medical condition and decided it was time he met his son and we our brother.What made this even worse is that he was born while my parents were married, in between myself and my younger sister. When I heard the news I wasn't shocked, there was always some secret in the family about some boy, my parents had three boys so any talk of a boy had to be someone else. I was intrigued so I agreed to meet him with my dad at a restaurant. He was nice enough but didn't look at all like anyone from our family and it was hard for me to accept the fact as true. I also resented his mother very much for doing this to my mother and our family and it renewed a lot of negative feelings I had toward my dad. Supposedly he supported the son until he was 18 but I really have no idea if that is true. Anyway after dad opened the can of wroms he decided he didn't want any contact with his son and left me to pick up the pieces. I continued to communicate and met a few times with my brother over the next year but it caused many problems with my sister who refused to meet him or want to know anything about him and my own family with my easy child angry at grandpa and threatened with my friendship with him as if I was cheating on husband. I ended up cutting off communication and wished my dad had left it alone. I am still angry that he did that just to serve his curiosity. difficult child once told me she wished we had kept her adoption a secret. Of course we couldn;t do that but it does point out the complexities of these situations and the emotional turmoil that comes with it. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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