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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 648377" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I have had 1/2 dozen young women call me over the years to tell me what I am doing wrong with difficult child. The first one I was just sort of surprised and amazed (she was in, maybe, 8th grade). Honestly I was kind of impressed with her aplomb. MOre recently...well honestly I let most calls go to vm now, and I just never call them back. There is one who is severely bipolar herself who I am kind of fond of...her struggles are apparent, and she deals with them valiantly. I see that she sees difficult child for who he is.</p><p></p><p>It was harder for me to learn to not be undermined or hurt by the case workers and social workers who called and told me about my failings. THAT hurt, and took a lot of postig on this board to work my way through!</p><p></p><p>All which is to say..I suggest you not engage. You can tell them now is not a good time, you can cut them off and say oops I have something on the stove, you can hang up the second they introduce themselves, you can listen and thank them for their time...whatever works for you, or a different approach each time.</p><p></p><p>They have no idea of what they speak. YOU know. WE know. Let it go. YOu have enough to deal with without letting wellintentioned ignorant people undermine you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs today,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 648377, member: 17269"] I have had 1/2 dozen young women call me over the years to tell me what I am doing wrong with difficult child. The first one I was just sort of surprised and amazed (she was in, maybe, 8th grade). Honestly I was kind of impressed with her aplomb. MOre recently...well honestly I let most calls go to vm now, and I just never call them back. There is one who is severely bipolar herself who I am kind of fond of...her struggles are apparent, and she deals with them valiantly. I see that she sees difficult child for who he is. It was harder for me to learn to not be undermined or hurt by the case workers and social workers who called and told me about my failings. THAT hurt, and took a lot of postig on this board to work my way through! All which is to say..I suggest you not engage. You can tell them now is not a good time, you can cut them off and say oops I have something on the stove, you can hang up the second they introduce themselves, you can listen and thank them for their time...whatever works for you, or a different approach each time. They have no idea of what they speak. YOU know. WE know. Let it go. YOu have enough to deal with without letting wellintentioned ignorant people undermine you. Hugs today, Echo [/QUOTE]
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