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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 648408" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, we sometimes have to discipline ourselves too and set boundaries.</p><p></p><p>Come 10 at night, put your phone away where you can't hear it even vibrating. If anything catastrophic happens, by the time you find out you wouldn't be able to help anyway. And, to be honest, with his lifestyle, you can't help anyway so why disturb your sleep and let his voice be the last thing you hear? Lowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww contact. You know he and girlfriend were thrown out of their place they were residing at. You don't know why. It is probably their faults. Now they both want a rescue from you. Unless you truly want to play this game again, why even give either of them the chance to try to guilt you out and make you feel terrible and lie about how bad a mother you have been when you have done EVERYTHING for him, trying to help him. Now his life is on his shoulders because he is too old to let mommy fix it. It won't help. You can't control him.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, I would stay away from listening to Son for three days. That's usually what I do and the crisis is usually gone by then. Is t here an up side to hearing him and his sidekick abuse you?</p><p></p><p>It takes time and thinking changes to realize we are not bad people or bad mothers if we don't talk to our adult children every time they call us, even if we know they are not calling just to ask us how we're feeling...they WANT something. We either learn to detach from the emotions THEY are feeling or we go down the tubes with them and are no go od for our other loved ones or ourselves. It's our choice. I hope you choose to live and have fun and not allow your son to ruin the good in your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 648408, member: 1550"] Hon, we sometimes have to discipline ourselves too and set boundaries. Come 10 at night, put your phone away where you can't hear it even vibrating. If anything catastrophic happens, by the time you find out you wouldn't be able to help anyway. And, to be honest, with his lifestyle, you can't help anyway so why disturb your sleep and let his voice be the last thing you hear? Lowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww contact. You know he and girlfriend were thrown out of their place they were residing at. You don't know why. It is probably their faults. Now they both want a rescue from you. Unless you truly want to play this game again, why even give either of them the chance to try to guilt you out and make you feel terrible and lie about how bad a mother you have been when you have done EVERYTHING for him, trying to help him. Now his life is on his shoulders because he is too old to let mommy fix it. It won't help. You can't control him. If it were me, I would stay away from listening to Son for three days. That's usually what I do and the crisis is usually gone by then. Is t here an up side to hearing him and his sidekick abuse you? It takes time and thinking changes to realize we are not bad people or bad mothers if we don't talk to our adult children every time they call us, even if we know they are not calling just to ask us how we're feeling...they WANT something. We either learn to detach from the emotions THEY are feeling or we go down the tubes with them and are no go od for our other loved ones or ourselves. It's our choice. I hope you choose to live and have fun and not allow your son to ruin the good in your life. [/QUOTE]
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