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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 220196" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>The club scene would be a very dangerous environment for an underage addicted teen. I'd stand firm, in fact say no altogether to it. You're right. </p><p></p><p>Do you have a family counselor who can sit down with you and husband and go over the contract, emphasizing how critical it is not to undermine it? That made a huge positive difference to our family.</p><p></p><p>As for the healthy things, make them available but don't knock yourself out trying to make sure your daughter does them. It's HER responsibility to work her recovery program. You can set up consequences for her not doing it and then follow through but don't argue or spend energy trying to make things happen. Find something that really matters to her, whether computer, cell phone, or whatever else, and make its continued use contingent on her following the program and going to meetings. Follow through every time, even if she loses stuff a lot, for a long time, at first. She will test but if you're consistent she'll have to make the decision as to whether to follow the program or lose her privileges, and then the responsibility will lie where it should. I know it's hard; warm wishes for success.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 220196, member: 2884"] The club scene would be a very dangerous environment for an underage addicted teen. I'd stand firm, in fact say no altogether to it. You're right. Do you have a family counselor who can sit down with you and husband and go over the contract, emphasizing how critical it is not to undermine it? That made a huge positive difference to our family. As for the healthy things, make them available but don't knock yourself out trying to make sure your daughter does them. It's HER responsibility to work her recovery program. You can set up consequences for her not doing it and then follow through but don't argue or spend energy trying to make things happen. Find something that really matters to her, whether computer, cell phone, or whatever else, and make its continued use contingent on her following the program and going to meetings. Follow through every time, even if she loses stuff a lot, for a long time, at first. She will test but if you're consistent she'll have to make the decision as to whether to follow the program or lose her privileges, and then the responsibility will lie where it should. I know it's hard; warm wishes for success. [/QUOTE]
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