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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 381537" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Blue Nude, those early teen years are horrible. Everything is magnified. </p><p>Having high scores is just a number unless they perform or produce. Having a high IQ is no guarantee that they can function to that level. There are many other aspects to true intelligence that come into play. Intellectual curiosity, motivation, perserverence, self satisfaction, competitiveness, goal setting and long range vision. Not all brilliant test takers are successful. I'm pretty sure there are quite a few geniuses living a marginal life in a shelter. </p><p>I'm not trying to scare you but I think worrying about her grades and accelerated programs are not looking at the underlying issues. I think the question is how can you help your child to develop some emotional stability and some sense of how to be the person she wants to be. If she wants to go to a magnet school, then talk to her what will she be willing to do to get there? Maybe help her set that goal and the steps to get there. Dangle the carrot to help her drag herself out of the fog she seems to be in. </p><p>She may have some learning issues. Either short term memory issues or organizational that may be helped if she is made aware of tools to help those issues. </p><p></p><p>On the other hand, if she continues to be so seriously scattered, depressed, or not functioning as she should you may have to look into other alternatives. It's a sad thought for a parent but you have to ask yourself "what does my child need?"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 381537, member: 3"] Blue Nude, those early teen years are horrible. Everything is magnified. Having high scores is just a number unless they perform or produce. Having a high IQ is no guarantee that they can function to that level. There are many other aspects to true intelligence that come into play. Intellectual curiosity, motivation, perserverence, self satisfaction, competitiveness, goal setting and long range vision. Not all brilliant test takers are successful. I'm pretty sure there are quite a few geniuses living a marginal life in a shelter. I'm not trying to scare you but I think worrying about her grades and accelerated programs are not looking at the underlying issues. I think the question is how can you help your child to develop some emotional stability and some sense of how to be the person she wants to be. If she wants to go to a magnet school, then talk to her what will she be willing to do to get there? Maybe help her set that goal and the steps to get there. Dangle the carrot to help her drag herself out of the fog she seems to be in. She may have some learning issues. Either short term memory issues or organizational that may be helped if she is made aware of tools to help those issues. On the other hand, if she continues to be so seriously scattered, depressed, or not functioning as she should you may have to look into other alternatives. It's a sad thought for a parent but you have to ask yourself "what does my child need?" [/QUOTE]
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