I would bet money that there is nothing you can say or do that would settle him down. He does not want to analyze and
solve "his" problem. He wants you to solve his problem and
that is impossible.
My AS difficult child turns to me fairly often with a similar need. In
his case he "decides" he wants to be popular and then sets
out "to make" it happen. He tried to force feed himself to
other teens and then is devestated when he is rejected.
This week (yes, I know it sound funny but I bet you do the same thing..lol) I tried once again to get him to understand
how society works! For four days it has remained in his head
which is probably a record.
"difficult child you alone can not be a family, a club, a group. No ONE
person can do that. You have to be a caring part of a group
to be a group member. Think of a beach. Can one grain of
sand be a beach?? Of course not! To make a beach a bunch
of sand grains have to unite with the common goal."
His response??? He smiled and said "I get it!!" (Of course
he will not continue to get it for long, lol.) "I have to think like a grain of sand and get together with others who
want to accomplish something. Thanks, Mama." Geez, DDD
