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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 724016" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Day one down, so far so good. I am very emotionally hung over as yesterday was a long day. The court appearance was treated like a youth sentencing conference and took about 3 hours. </p><p>When my son was finally released from the prisoners box and hand cuffs he ran to me in tears and hugged me so tight. </p><p></p><p>That was new. Normally he is full of hairy eyeballs and scornful looks. </p><p></p><p>I asked him to share what was the worst and best part of his experience in jail. He said worst: not knowing if he would get out. </p><p>Best: he now realizes he has a problem and needs rehab. </p><p></p><p>He is like a hyper 12 year old. Full of plans for a clean slate and fresh start. I find the best way to manage him is to remain calm and be brief in my discussions. Keeping to the point of what he can and can not do. </p><p></p><p>He appears genuine and remorseful. Hopeful with no expectations here. </p><p></p><p>He has an intake interview on the 29th for a long term in patient rehab program. When we are accepted they will give us an idea of when the bed will be available. </p><p></p><p>In the interim it is to school and home. If he is late or leaves they notify me and we call the police. No internet or snap chat,calls only to us and texting only for us and school. </p><p></p><p>For good behaviour we will allow friends (non drug friends) to visit 2 at a time an hour at a time. Visitation has to be earned. </p><p></p><p>He has a list of conditions he must meet or he goes to jail and this time he gets a conviction, jail time and a criminal record. </p><p></p><p>This interim period is going to be harder on me than him. </p><p></p><p>He said an older prisoner in remand took him under his wing and gave him quit an earful, made him go to chapel every day. Told him if he ever came back he would not get the same treatment. Explained to my son his history of being born into a drug family Andy working running drugs from the age of 6, loosing his father at 12 to gunshot wounds. He described his life in a very unappealing fashion. Angles among us in many different ways. He told my son that he ( my son), was not a criminal and didn’t want to be either. Told him to stop being so stupid and stay away from the drugs. </p><p></p><p>He gave my son the title of a book to read and wrote in his bible, “the power of words is understanding their true meaning” he told my son to to focus on a particular chapter in the books he recommended. Well who ever you are “OJ” thanks for giving my son a little “Jail House Jesus” and some life lessons. </p><p></p><p>The end game is to complete Rehab and request a dismissal of his charges. </p><p></p><p>We are on a long and weary road. The rest of this journey is truly up to him. </p><p></p><p>Thank you all for your wisdom and your support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 724016, member: 21895"] Day one down, so far so good. I am very emotionally hung over as yesterday was a long day. The court appearance was treated like a youth sentencing conference and took about 3 hours. When my son was finally released from the prisoners box and hand cuffs he ran to me in tears and hugged me so tight. That was new. Normally he is full of hairy eyeballs and scornful looks. I asked him to share what was the worst and best part of his experience in jail. He said worst: not knowing if he would get out. Best: he now realizes he has a problem and needs rehab. He is like a hyper 12 year old. Full of plans for a clean slate and fresh start. I find the best way to manage him is to remain calm and be brief in my discussions. Keeping to the point of what he can and can not do. He appears genuine and remorseful. Hopeful with no expectations here. He has an intake interview on the 29th for a long term in patient rehab program. When we are accepted they will give us an idea of when the bed will be available. In the interim it is to school and home. If he is late or leaves they notify me and we call the police. No internet or snap chat,calls only to us and texting only for us and school. For good behaviour we will allow friends (non drug friends) to visit 2 at a time an hour at a time. Visitation has to be earned. He has a list of conditions he must meet or he goes to jail and this time he gets a conviction, jail time and a criminal record. This interim period is going to be harder on me than him. He said an older prisoner in remand took him under his wing and gave him quit an earful, made him go to chapel every day. Told him if he ever came back he would not get the same treatment. Explained to my son his history of being born into a drug family Andy working running drugs from the age of 6, loosing his father at 12 to gunshot wounds. He described his life in a very unappealing fashion. Angles among us in many different ways. He told my son that he ( my son), was not a criminal and didn’t want to be either. Told him to stop being so stupid and stay away from the drugs. He gave my son the title of a book to read and wrote in his bible, “the power of words is understanding their true meaning” he told my son to to focus on a particular chapter in the books he recommended. Well who ever you are “OJ” thanks for giving my son a little “Jail House Jesus” and some life lessons. The end game is to complete Rehab and request a dismissal of his charges. We are on a long and weary road. The rest of this journey is truly up to him. Thank you all for your wisdom and your support. [/QUOTE]
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