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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 618846" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>Wow Pink Banana so much in your post has taken me on a trip down memory lane, you truly are not alone... I lived a lot of what you are describing from the time Angel was 2yo till she was around 15yo. I don't think Angel was stable for a solid 72 hours during that entire time. For her Lithium prescribed on the 15th or 16th psychiatric hospital stay was the light at the end of the tunnel. If I had it to do over again she probably should have gone into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when she was around 8yo.</p><p></p><p>(I paused for about 10 minutes here) Trying to figure out how to tell parts of our story that will help you without writing a book; take what you can use and dump the rest. My main focus was safety - keeping myself & all 3 of my children alive ... </p><p></p><p>1) I often felt like I had to deal with more locks cooking dinner then entering a maximum security prison - no joke I locked up or got rid of just about everything. No little projectiles (nick nacks)or frames with glass to break and put the pieces in my bed (woke up bloody a few times)</p><p></p><p>There was a time that every sharps, glass anything, ropes, medications, cleaning supplies, tools, producers of fire or anything else dangerous was kept under lock & key... food cabinets, the fridge and freezer had padlocks on them also - side note if do this have sitting out available peanut butter (protein), bread, apple & banana (cps will claim depriving food if don't) I provided 3 balanced meals & 2 snacks per day, if they didn't like what I made would point to the peanut butter if didn't have easy alternative.</p><p></p><p>Sounds extreme I know but Angel once stabbed a pencil 2 inches into her brothers back because she THOUGHT he ate her cookie. There had been issues with her eating raw meat & eggs etc. Locked up the keys in a combination lock box when sleeping.</p><p></p><p>2) The 2nd time I had to clear out & wash down her room, throw out the carpet & mattress... It occurred to me the law said I had to provide a roof, a bed, clothes & food; it didn't say anything about TV or enough toys to furnish a daycare. </p><p></p><p>So I tiled her bedroom floor and put a new mattress with 2 very thick mattress covers on it in the middle of the floor with pillow, blanket and her favorite stuffed animal... the rest of her stuff was privileges that she had to earn back. Clothes stored outside her room. </p><p></p><p>Suggest visitation rather then give back because if try to turn off the TV she earned back be prepared to catch it being thrown at you. That day I think we had like 8 cars & a dozen police officers that got involved - she smashed the window & bolted after she threw the TV at me.</p><p></p><p>*************************************************************************************</p><p>In closing I feel should disclose that with Angel the poop smearing was tied into some severe medical issues - hypothyroidism, food sensitivities and medications were causing cronic constipation to the point that on 4 occasions it became life threatening. Even with medical explanation the only way I survived was by mixing oxy clean & laundry soap into a paste smash it into the mess then keep going over it with carpet steamer with hot water in it (love my little green machine). </p><p></p><p>I worry with his age if he isn't on board to getting treatment it's not something you are going to be able to force him to do. None of you sound like in a safe situation and maybe an out of home placement is needed as it is impossible for you and your husband to monitor him 24/7 and it sounds like that is what is needed. With the right treatment there is hope for those this severe but they need to be willing to receive treatment and the treatment needs to be the right kind. Some kind of intervention is needed now because if he is still like this at 17/18yo he is probably gonna end up in prison or worse.</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad you found us and don't give up hope; I'm not saying it will be easy... for now focus on surviving and have faith that this too shall pass. Sorry this got so long, I never would have made it without the parents here to help me.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 618846, member: 7170"] Wow Pink Banana so much in your post has taken me on a trip down memory lane, you truly are not alone... I lived a lot of what you are describing from the time Angel was 2yo till she was around 15yo. I don't think Angel was stable for a solid 72 hours during that entire time. For her Lithium prescribed on the 15th or 16th psychiatric hospital stay was the light at the end of the tunnel. If I had it to do over again she probably should have gone into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when she was around 8yo. (I paused for about 10 minutes here) Trying to figure out how to tell parts of our story that will help you without writing a book; take what you can use and dump the rest. My main focus was safety - keeping myself & all 3 of my children alive ... 1) I often felt like I had to deal with more locks cooking dinner then entering a maximum security prison - no joke I locked up or got rid of just about everything. No little projectiles (nick nacks)or frames with glass to break and put the pieces in my bed (woke up bloody a few times) There was a time that every sharps, glass anything, ropes, medications, cleaning supplies, tools, producers of fire or anything else dangerous was kept under lock & key... food cabinets, the fridge and freezer had padlocks on them also - side note if do this have sitting out available peanut butter (protein), bread, apple & banana (cps will claim depriving food if don't) I provided 3 balanced meals & 2 snacks per day, if they didn't like what I made would point to the peanut butter if didn't have easy alternative. Sounds extreme I know but Angel once stabbed a pencil 2 inches into her brothers back because she THOUGHT he ate her cookie. There had been issues with her eating raw meat & eggs etc. Locked up the keys in a combination lock box when sleeping. 2) The 2nd time I had to clear out & wash down her room, throw out the carpet & mattress... It occurred to me the law said I had to provide a roof, a bed, clothes & food; it didn't say anything about TV or enough toys to furnish a daycare. So I tiled her bedroom floor and put a new mattress with 2 very thick mattress covers on it in the middle of the floor with pillow, blanket and her favorite stuffed animal... the rest of her stuff was privileges that she had to earn back. Clothes stored outside her room. Suggest visitation rather then give back because if try to turn off the TV she earned back be prepared to catch it being thrown at you. That day I think we had like 8 cars & a dozen police officers that got involved - she smashed the window & bolted after she threw the TV at me. ************************************************************************************* In closing I feel should disclose that with Angel the poop smearing was tied into some severe medical issues - hypothyroidism, food sensitivities and medications were causing cronic constipation to the point that on 4 occasions it became life threatening. Even with medical explanation the only way I survived was by mixing oxy clean & laundry soap into a paste smash it into the mess then keep going over it with carpet steamer with hot water in it (love my little green machine). I worry with his age if he isn't on board to getting treatment it's not something you are going to be able to force him to do. None of you sound like in a safe situation and maybe an out of home placement is needed as it is impossible for you and your husband to monitor him 24/7 and it sounds like that is what is needed. With the right treatment there is hope for those this severe but they need to be willing to receive treatment and the treatment needs to be the right kind. Some kind of intervention is needed now because if he is still like this at 17/18yo he is probably gonna end up in prison or worse. I'm so glad you found us and don't give up hope; I'm not saying it will be easy... for now focus on surviving and have faith that this too shall pass. Sorry this got so long, I never would have made it without the parents here to help me. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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