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Teen ran away (again) ... should I call police?
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<blockquote data-quote="myfirstandlast" data-source="post: 287251" data-attributes="member: 3420"><p>Update: she is with her mom now ...</p><p></p><p>Yesterday daughter called the 19 y.o. saying that she was pregnant and hungry and needed him to bring her some money so his baby could eat (so apparently her and her friends ran out of money already). She was preg checked at her doctors' last week and it was negative ... I talked to his mom and told her (she'd called me to let me know daughter had tried to contact the 19 y.o.) and she was relieved but then realized how bad the manipulation was ... she apologized and said that daughter had been there the night she ran away, but they hadn't told me because daughter told them that husband had punched her in the face ... OMG that lying brat ... how COULD she ... he would never ever EVER ... even when she does this screaming in-your-face "hit me hit me" BS ... oh I don't even want to see her again. :`(</p><p></p><p>Then we talked to her bio-mom who came to get her stuff, as she was scheduled to spend a week with her anyway, and she told us that daughter had called her and told her that husband had punched her in the face also ... now we know what daughter told her 22 y.o. "friend" so he'd come and get her from hours away ... just wait until HE learns the truth about her. She's going to lie to the wrong person some day and get knocked around FOR REAL ... *sigh*</p><p></p><p>Her bio-mom said she knew better, at least, called her out on the lie, but daughter insisted and yelled at her for not believing her, tried the whole guilt thing, manipulating, ugh. I don't know what led to her mom picking her up, wherever they were, but last we knew she was with her mom as of 3 p.m. yesterday, so until she splits again, we can breathe and plan.</p><p></p><p>I am just so mortified that she is running around telling people that her dad punched her ... and yes I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that he did not ... younger daughter was there during the argument and saw her get in his face and KNOWS it is a lie just like everyone who knows him. With the hatred he has for abusers like my ex and her mom's ex, she couldn't hurt husband worse than this. :`(</p><p></p><p>She's losing her cell phone, internet access, the door to her room ... don't know what else we can do as there is not much to take away and we can't chain her in her room at night. We lock up our medications but she finds ways to abuse anyway ... we discovered she was saving up her own "migraine" medications to share with her boyfriend to get high, I don't even trust her with anything OTC and don't think all these "headaches" she's been complaining of for months are legit; could be just withdrawals the officer was telling us.</p><p></p><p>Oh yeah, the first time she called her mom, it was from a hospital because they had to take the 22 y.o. in because he was vomiting blood ... WTH are these kids doing to become that violently ill and not see a problem with it?!</p><p></p><p>Another tidbit, when the officer called the 22 y.o. and told him how much trouble he was in for what he was doing, advising the prompt return of the 16 y.o. in his company ... they all thought it was the 19 y.o. calling and disguising his voice! There is another young man with them, an 18 y.o. that was begging daughter's bio-mom to not get the police involved, but then she told them it wasn't the 19 y.o. who had called, it was an actual officer, and they got spooked. I imagine that's why she ended up getting daughter yesterday, when the young men realized that this wasn't fun and games and the police WERE really looking for them.</p><p></p><p>I was never into ANY kind of trouble even remotely like this, not even as a young adult, so I'm just lost and confused in this world, and (was until recently) rather naive to the level of deceit these kids are capable of ... I hate the helpless feeling. I really hope the younger kids are learning from what they're watching. My 14 y.o. is fairly respectful of authority figures and a by-the-book type, straight edge, happy loner "gamer" type ... I worry the most about my 11 y.o. who has been trying to act like her older sister for the last 8 years to the fullest extent allowable, and then more so behind our backs. Worried about her acting out sexually more than the drugs, with the absence of her own father and the role model she looks up to ... </p><p></p><p>I really do want to hide under the covers for the next few weeks, months, years!! :/</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="myfirstandlast, post: 287251, member: 3420"] Update: she is with her mom now ... Yesterday daughter called the 19 y.o. saying that she was pregnant and hungry and needed him to bring her some money so his baby could eat (so apparently her and her friends ran out of money already). She was preg checked at her doctors' last week and it was negative ... I talked to his mom and told her (she'd called me to let me know daughter had tried to contact the 19 y.o.) and she was relieved but then realized how bad the manipulation was ... she apologized and said that daughter had been there the night she ran away, but they hadn't told me because daughter told them that husband had punched her in the face ... OMG that lying brat ... how COULD she ... he would never ever EVER ... even when she does this screaming in-your-face "hit me hit me" BS ... oh I don't even want to see her again. :`( Then we talked to her bio-mom who came to get her stuff, as she was scheduled to spend a week with her anyway, and she told us that daughter had called her and told her that husband had punched her in the face also ... now we know what daughter told her 22 y.o. "friend" so he'd come and get her from hours away ... just wait until HE learns the truth about her. She's going to lie to the wrong person some day and get knocked around FOR REAL ... *sigh* Her bio-mom said she knew better, at least, called her out on the lie, but daughter insisted and yelled at her for not believing her, tried the whole guilt thing, manipulating, ugh. I don't know what led to her mom picking her up, wherever they were, but last we knew she was with her mom as of 3 p.m. yesterday, so until she splits again, we can breathe and plan. I am just so mortified that she is running around telling people that her dad punched her ... and yes I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that he did not ... younger daughter was there during the argument and saw her get in his face and KNOWS it is a lie just like everyone who knows him. With the hatred he has for abusers like my ex and her mom's ex, she couldn't hurt husband worse than this. :`( She's losing her cell phone, internet access, the door to her room ... don't know what else we can do as there is not much to take away and we can't chain her in her room at night. We lock up our medications but she finds ways to abuse anyway ... we discovered she was saving up her own "migraine" medications to share with her boyfriend to get high, I don't even trust her with anything OTC and don't think all these "headaches" she's been complaining of for months are legit; could be just withdrawals the officer was telling us. Oh yeah, the first time she called her mom, it was from a hospital because they had to take the 22 y.o. in because he was vomiting blood ... WTH are these kids doing to become that violently ill and not see a problem with it?! Another tidbit, when the officer called the 22 y.o. and told him how much trouble he was in for what he was doing, advising the prompt return of the 16 y.o. in his company ... they all thought it was the 19 y.o. calling and disguising his voice! There is another young man with them, an 18 y.o. that was begging daughter's bio-mom to not get the police involved, but then she told them it wasn't the 19 y.o. who had called, it was an actual officer, and they got spooked. I imagine that's why she ended up getting daughter yesterday, when the young men realized that this wasn't fun and games and the police WERE really looking for them. I was never into ANY kind of trouble even remotely like this, not even as a young adult, so I'm just lost and confused in this world, and (was until recently) rather naive to the level of deceit these kids are capable of ... I hate the helpless feeling. I really hope the younger kids are learning from what they're watching. My 14 y.o. is fairly respectful of authority figures and a by-the-book type, straight edge, happy loner "gamer" type ... I worry the most about my 11 y.o. who has been trying to act like her older sister for the last 8 years to the fullest extent allowable, and then more so behind our backs. Worried about her acting out sexually more than the drugs, with the absence of her own father and the role model she looks up to ... I really do want to hide under the covers for the next few weeks, months, years!! :/ [/QUOTE]
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