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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 89832" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Okay, maybe I'm the lone dissenter here...</p><p></p><p>It sounds like when he ran away before, you'd become acclimatized (numb?) to his departures. Maybe he'd done it enough - and survived to tell the tale - that your concern was whetted. I understand that feeling well, and commiserate. I've often told McWeedy that the days of us crying all night when he runs away are long gone - where before we were scared beyond belief, now we just get mad (well, maybe me more than wife...)</p><p></p><p>I also hear you on the change in behavior. McWeedy gets into "ruts" when he acts out. He does the same thing, over and over, to the point where we become desensitized. It's when he does something really <strong>different</strong> that he shocks us back into the old fears. Seems that's where you are now.</p><p></p><p>All that said, when McWeedy does these things, as angry as I get I'm still whipped, and end up leaving him an out; or, in this case, an <em>in</em>. I'll turn all the lights off, send everyone to bed, and then camp out on my comfy sofa until he drags his skinny buttocks back across the stoop.</p><p></p><p>I don't know your situation, or whether you feel safe with your son in your house. I had to buy a safe to lock up all my valuables and drugs, but I don't feel unsafe around him. I don't trust him, and if his lips are moving he's lying, but I don't fear him. So, I always end up leaving him a way back into the house.</p><p></p><p>That may not be the situation for you, though. But for me, if McWeedy was on the run from "da PoPo", I would leave him a way back into the house where I could be sure the cops couldn't beat him or otherwise make up additional charges when they took him into custody. That sounds crass, but I have personal experience with that situation.</p><p></p><p>But that's me. You have to do what you feel is best, and safest. I leave the old front door unlocked, which is the noisiest, squeakiest door in the house. I purposely leave it unoiled so that nobody can sneak in (or out) without the whole house knowing it. So McWeedy can't get in without me knowing about it. If there was something to fear from him, he wouldn't take me unawares.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like you know the eventual outcome for your son, but want to give him a "soft place to land" as well. I understand. Maybe you can offer him that place in a way where you and your family aren't threatened? I would, but again that's me and my situation.</p><p></p><p>I hope and pray you find peace and clarity in deciding what to do.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 89832, member: 3579"] Okay, maybe I'm the lone dissenter here... It sounds like when he ran away before, you'd become acclimatized (numb?) to his departures. Maybe he'd done it enough - and survived to tell the tale - that your concern was whetted. I understand that feeling well, and commiserate. I've often told McWeedy that the days of us crying all night when he runs away are long gone - where before we were scared beyond belief, now we just get mad (well, maybe me more than wife...) I also hear you on the change in behavior. McWeedy gets into "ruts" when he acts out. He does the same thing, over and over, to the point where we become desensitized. It's when he does something really [b]different[/b] that he shocks us back into the old fears. Seems that's where you are now. All that said, when McWeedy does these things, as angry as I get I'm still whipped, and end up leaving him an out; or, in this case, an [i]in[/i]. I'll turn all the lights off, send everyone to bed, and then camp out on my comfy sofa until he drags his skinny buttocks back across the stoop. I don't know your situation, or whether you feel safe with your son in your house. I had to buy a safe to lock up all my valuables and drugs, but I don't feel unsafe around him. I don't trust him, and if his lips are moving he's lying, but I don't fear him. So, I always end up leaving him a way back into the house. That may not be the situation for you, though. But for me, if McWeedy was on the run from "da PoPo", I would leave him a way back into the house where I could be sure the cops couldn't beat him or otherwise make up additional charges when they took him into custody. That sounds crass, but I have personal experience with that situation. But that's me. You have to do what you feel is best, and safest. I leave the old front door unlocked, which is the noisiest, squeakiest door in the house. I purposely leave it unoiled so that nobody can sneak in (or out) without the whole house knowing it. So McWeedy can't get in without me knowing about it. If there was something to fear from him, he wouldn't take me unawares. It sounds like you know the eventual outcome for your son, but want to give him a "soft place to land" as well. I understand. Maybe you can offer him that place in a way where you and your family aren't threatened? I would, but again that's me and my situation. I hope and pray you find peace and clarity in deciding what to do. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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