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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 760430" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>Just a quick reply to say welcome and you are not alone. Many of us here can relate to your story.</p><p></p><p>I think only you can decide what is best for you and your relationship with your son. For me, I maintain a relationship with my son but I have boundaries. He knows he can’t live with me. We won’t give him money but sometimes we will subsidise things of our choosing - like medical bills. (We recently loaned him money to get his wisdom teeth taken out. He’s paid back some of that money but not all.) I won’t put up with disrespectful behaviour in my house. He must be sober when visiting me. If he crosses these boundaries I ask him to leave.</p><p></p><p>This works for me. It doesn’t mean that I am unaffected by his choices or that I don’t worry. But he’s still in my life and that is important to me. It might not always be this way, but it is working for now.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully others will be along soon to add their thoughts.</p><p></p><p>Remember, you matter. You deserve peace and happiness in your life. Take care of yourself. Your son is an adult and you are not responsible for his choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 760430, member: 24721"] Just a quick reply to say welcome and you are not alone. Many of us here can relate to your story. I think only you can decide what is best for you and your relationship with your son. For me, I maintain a relationship with my son but I have boundaries. He knows he can’t live with me. We won’t give him money but sometimes we will subsidise things of our choosing - like medical bills. (We recently loaned him money to get his wisdom teeth taken out. He’s paid back some of that money but not all.) I won’t put up with disrespectful behaviour in my house. He must be sober when visiting me. If he crosses these boundaries I ask him to leave. This works for me. It doesn’t mean that I am unaffected by his choices or that I don’t worry. But he’s still in my life and that is important to me. It might not always be this way, but it is working for now. Hopefully others will be along soon to add their thoughts. Remember, you matter. You deserve peace and happiness in your life. Take care of yourself. Your son is an adult and you are not responsible for his choices. [/QUOTE]
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