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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 765467" data-attributes="member: 32799">Thank YOU for being here and continuing to share, even if it’s painful.  I hate that what we share is such a horrible thing though.  <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤗" title="Hugging face    :hugging:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f917.png" data-shortname=":hugging:" /> Also thank you so much about Gizmo, she was an amazing girl and is definitely missed. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart    :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🌈" title="Rainbow    :rainbow:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f308.png" data-shortname=":rainbow:" /> I grew up in a home affected by alcohol, my Dad. When he was not home was pure bliss, weekends and evenings I retreated to my bedroom and hid only coming out for the bathroom or something to eat. So I do understand how much torture this can be for both you and him. It tends to run through down the family line as my grandfather too was a hard alcohol, alcoholic.  His was so bad that most days he had a second home out in the shed so drunk by the time he came inside he would fight and hit his wife. My sister for awhile was drinking everyday but then stopped for fear of health issues. I drink at times but am so violently against it because of my past but my husband at times will get me so mad such as at the BBQ he had too much.I am so glad you agree and see how bad an idea that would have been to have given him a home on your property. My husband is actually the one who made me see the sense of why we could not do this for our daughter, she would feel entitled to do anything she pleased in her own “home” I have even had thoughts of buying her a junk car just so that she had some sort of shelter.  Nope, I would have to tag and insure it and any damage to it or another would fall on us including being taken to court for compensation.  You see? We mean well, we really do but…..who is left time and again to pick up the pieces? My plan is to steer my daughter towards getting a transit pass and telling her to go to the area where they feed the homeless, will give her a tent if needed. I will not confront her myself but will talk through my Ring doorbell camera.  If violent of course the police. I even changed my phone number earlier this year because every time my phone showed the jail, sent me into an instant panic attack and talking about why? why would she call us? what did she want? On and on to my husband and of course we had no answers.With his violence do you too happen to have a plan if this or that occurs?  I think it’s a great idea as one book mentioned to think of every scenario and how you might handle it in a way that your in control, not them.  <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes    :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /></blockquote>

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