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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766508" data-attributes="member: 18958">Dear LetgoThank you for your kind words.&nbsp; Please don't ever hesitate to post.&nbsp; There is room here enough for all of our heartache.Your heart is yours alone. You own it. You can feel anything you want. What we must remember is that feelings are not reality.&nbsp; Of course we would want our children to be safe, protected, and to feel that they are loved.&nbsp; We can feel these feelings and have these wishes but do not have to act on them.&nbsp;&nbsp; These things, the knowing one is loved, safe, protected, worthy is the challenge for every adult. It can no longer be in the hands of their parents. But we can wish that for them. But let go.Let go. I understand your name represents letting go the sense you have control over and responsibility for a good outcome for your daughter or even a healthy relationship with her, because you came to realize that the outcome was not in your hands. And that continuing to feel responsible for outcomes for your child, or the state of a relationship with your daughter was destructive to you and also to your daughter.&nbsp; All of this is so. I believe.I was very touched by a recent post of yours that explained that you were not letting go of love or letting go of hope. Love and hope are yours to have. But these feelings need not be tethered to responsibility, and even less. to guilt. Please let that go.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766508, member: 18958"] Dear Letgo Thank you for your kind words. Please don't ever hesitate to post. There is room here enough for all of our heartache. Your heart is yours alone. You own it. You can feel anything you want. What we must remember is that feelings are not reality. Of course we would want our children to be safe, protected, and to feel that they are loved. We can feel these feelings and have these wishes but do not have to act on them. These things, the knowing one is loved, safe, protected, worthy is the challenge for every adult. It can no longer be in the hands of their parents. But we can wish that for them. But let go. Let go. I understand your name represents letting go the sense you have control over and responsibility for a good outcome for your daughter or even a healthy relationship with her, because you came to realize that the outcome was not in your hands. And that continuing to feel responsible for outcomes for your child, or the state of a relationship with your daughter was destructive to you and also to your daughter. All of this is so. I believe. I was very touched by a recent post of yours that explained that you were not letting go of love or letting go of hope. Love and hope are yours to have. But these feelings need not be tethered to responsibility, and even less. to guilt. Please let that go. [/QUOTE]

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