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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 654443" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Tanya, I am usually serene and peaceful. This comes up once in a while when I have a lightbulb moment...this time the fact is, I was never included as one of the family. Sibs went to see unc without me and went with Mom and they did everything without me. Course half the time Sis was on one of her cut offs. Truth is, I do not miss that me and my family were not invited to see self-loving uncle in Indiana (a wonderful vacation spot...haha), but it's the thought that I was never even asked. Still...he is one of the most selfish people I knew, even in my DNA collection...the cheating on his girlfriends and laughing about it, the treating his ex wife like she was garbage, the using my sons until he was with another woman and then ignoring the boys...blah. And, of course, the family thought it was fine that he did that to two young boys because he was another Golden Child.</p><p></p><p>I was never one of them \and, after seeing this latest, I had to accept it. They are plain cruel, and sister has been <em><strong>so</strong></em> cruel to brother (if he only knew), but you know what? It's not fair, but life ain't fair. I don't want to be a part of them. But I'm human. It is still there bothering me sometimes. It won't go away right off the bat. No lightbuilb moment ever does. It's a learning experience, not always easy to digest. For all I know they are still laughing and reading, but, as I said above, they are really no more important to me than strangers anymore...so they can read and laugh, just as anyone here can. It's an open site, although I ever dreamed either of them would be bored enough to read my thoughts.Well, whether they want to believe what I went through or not, now they know how I feel. And it's done. Time to let them think what they want because they will. Doesn't make them right.</p><p></p><p>I'm better a lot though. Today was a great day in the 70's, day off, rode bike, ran, and saw Sonic bowl and he did great. I was yelling so loud. Then I came home to husband's hus and Skyped with the baby and talked to Bart. Now I'm going out for another run. It's too nice to waste the evening. During these times, I feel my normal peaceful self. Because, really, no actual drama is going on excpt in my head. They can't hurt me any more. They already did their worst so it is over. In time, this will fade away. Everything else isin my life is so good. This is It's just a matter of grieving and acceptance. Then you lean into your real family and enjoy them <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks for your support. You rock <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 654443, member: 1550"] Tanya, I am usually serene and peaceful. This comes up once in a while when I have a lightbulb moment...this time the fact is, I was never included as one of the family. Sibs went to see unc without me and went with Mom and they did everything without me. Course half the time Sis was on one of her cut offs. Truth is, I do not miss that me and my family were not invited to see self-loving uncle in Indiana (a wonderful vacation spot...haha), but it's the thought that I was never even asked. Still...he is one of the most selfish people I knew, even in my DNA collection...the cheating on his girlfriends and laughing about it, the treating his ex wife like she was garbage, the using my sons until he was with another woman and then ignoring the boys...blah. And, of course, the family thought it was fine that he did that to two young boys because he was another Golden Child. I was never one of them \and, after seeing this latest, I had to accept it. They are plain cruel, and sister has been [I][B]so[/B][/I] cruel to brother (if he only knew), but you know what? It's not fair, but life ain't fair. I don't want to be a part of them. But I'm human. It is still there bothering me sometimes. It won't go away right off the bat. No lightbuilb moment ever does. It's a learning experience, not always easy to digest. For all I know they are still laughing and reading, but, as I said above, they are really no more important to me than strangers anymore...so they can read and laugh, just as anyone here can. It's an open site, although I ever dreamed either of them would be bored enough to read my thoughts.Well, whether they want to believe what I went through or not, now they know how I feel. And it's done. Time to let them think what they want because they will. Doesn't make them right. I'm better a lot though. Today was a great day in the 70's, day off, rode bike, ran, and saw Sonic bowl and he did great. I was yelling so loud. Then I came home to husband's hus and Skyped with the baby and talked to Bart. Now I'm going out for another run. It's too nice to waste the evening. During these times, I feel my normal peaceful self. Because, really, no actual drama is going on excpt in my head. They can't hurt me any more. They already did their worst so it is over. In time, this will fade away. Everything else isin my life is so good. This is It's just a matter of grieving and acceptance. Then you lean into your real family and enjoy them :) Thanks for your support. You rock :) [/QUOTE]
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