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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 708417" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This stage of life for parents and children is not easy. I for one did not come out unscathed.</p><p></p><p>The way I tried to get through is, is the way you proposed: trying to make one correct decision after the next, not considering consequences. You are not responsible for CQ or what she does. She is, whether she puts the blame or not on you...and she will blame you. That is her makeup. Nothing you do or do not do will change this.</p><p></p><p>Your responsibility as I see it is to be as good a person as you can be and do right as a daughter. Which is to make sure to the extent you are able that your father does not harm others, or in turn, be harmed. By allowing him to drive lacking the capacity is to fail yourself and to fail him.</p><p></p><p>You are very strong. Whatever CQ decides to throw your way you will deal with. What you could never recover from is your father unintentionally hurting innocents.</p><p></p><p>There was a point for my mother when this condition arose. I was working far, far away. I told her: don't drive. And she did not. It took me a few weeks until I was able to quit my job and I had food delivered from the supermarket until I arrived. My life was never again the same.</p><p></p><p>The decision to take control of the situation cost me any possibility of ever again having a relationship with my sister. I spent the next year caring for my mother until she died, and my life changed irrevocably and completely. I was never the same person again.</p><p></p><p>But I am a better person. I see that now.</p><p></p><p>You know what the right thing to do is, for you, and I believe you have already decided what to do and when. That is who you are. Nobody, I mean nobody can or should take that away from you. Especially somebody as self-serving, small and conniving as is CQ.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 708417, member: 18958"] This stage of life for parents and children is not easy. I for one did not come out unscathed. The way I tried to get through is, is the way you proposed: trying to make one correct decision after the next, not considering consequences. You are not responsible for CQ or what she does. She is, whether she puts the blame or not on you...and she will blame you. That is her makeup. Nothing you do or do not do will change this. Your responsibility as I see it is to be as good a person as you can be and do right as a daughter. Which is to make sure to the extent you are able that your father does not harm others, or in turn, be harmed. By allowing him to drive lacking the capacity is to fail yourself and to fail him. You are very strong. Whatever CQ decides to throw your way you will deal with. What you could never recover from is your father unintentionally hurting innocents. There was a point for my mother when this condition arose. I was working far, far away. I told her: don't drive. And she did not. It took me a few weeks until I was able to quit my job and I had food delivered from the supermarket until I arrived. My life was never again the same. The decision to take control of the situation cost me any possibility of ever again having a relationship with my sister. I spent the next year caring for my mother until she died, and my life changed irrevocably and completely. I was never the same person again. But I am a better person. I see that now. You know what the right thing to do is, for you, and I believe you have already decided what to do and when. That is who you are. Nobody, I mean nobody can or should take that away from you. Especially somebody as self-serving, small and conniving as is CQ. [/QUOTE]
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