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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 652259" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Ours actually did go to a homeless shelter and after three months, got a job and promptly got kicked out, which is how he ended up in the apartment he's in now. He was told by people at the shelter he should join the service. He was 19 with no record. Nope. I suggested Job Corps. I have a friend who's stepson went and got a computer tech certification. My son was ONE quarter from having that certification in high school. He would live in Chicago, have everything paid, get his cert. and job search help. But no. Won't consider it. Basically, won't consider nothing with rules attached. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Same here. Granted my son didn't really start giving us trouble until he was about 16 or 17, but at his age I was consciously avoiding doing things that my parents would be hurt by. I drank. But all kids drank. That was it. I wouldn't even have dated anyone they didn't approve of. I didn't talk back. I didn't demand. I didn't throw tantrums. Drugs? NEVER! I would NEVER have done that. Hell, when I was in law school I got a blood clot in my leg and was hospitalized. I had to confess to my mom that I took birth control pills. I was sooooo embarrassed and so worried about disappointing them. In. My. 20's. I hadn't lived at home for YEARS. </p><p></p><p>I don't think I was inconsistent with him. We would tell him no...and usually stick to it. He never, ever, got his way when he would throw a fit. I did the carrying him out of stores because he wanted something and threw a tantrum. We spanked...until he was about 7...it simply didn't do anything. Taking stuff away did, so we did that. We once took his games and toys away for a month and he had to earn them back...one at a time. I don't think we did anything wrong, parenting-wise. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I keep telling myself this too. He had a nice room, tv, dvd, playstation, computer, car. We bought food that only he would eat. All he had to do was not do drugs, treat us with some respect, get a job and not steal. Really, that was all we wanted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 652259, member: 17309"] Ours actually did go to a homeless shelter and after three months, got a job and promptly got kicked out, which is how he ended up in the apartment he's in now. He was told by people at the shelter he should join the service. He was 19 with no record. Nope. I suggested Job Corps. I have a friend who's stepson went and got a computer tech certification. My son was ONE quarter from having that certification in high school. He would live in Chicago, have everything paid, get his cert. and job search help. But no. Won't consider it. Basically, won't consider nothing with rules attached. Same here. Granted my son didn't really start giving us trouble until he was about 16 or 17, but at his age I was consciously avoiding doing things that my parents would be hurt by. I drank. But all kids drank. That was it. I wouldn't even have dated anyone they didn't approve of. I didn't talk back. I didn't demand. I didn't throw tantrums. Drugs? NEVER! I would NEVER have done that. Hell, when I was in law school I got a blood clot in my leg and was hospitalized. I had to confess to my mom that I took birth control pills. I was sooooo embarrassed and so worried about disappointing them. In. My. 20's. I hadn't lived at home for YEARS. I don't think I was inconsistent with him. We would tell him no...and usually stick to it. He never, ever, got his way when he would throw a fit. I did the carrying him out of stores because he wanted something and threw a tantrum. We spanked...until he was about 7...it simply didn't do anything. Taking stuff away did, so we did that. We once took his games and toys away for a month and he had to earn them back...one at a time. I don't think we did anything wrong, parenting-wise. I keep telling myself this too. He had a nice room, tv, dvd, playstation, computer, car. We bought food that only he would eat. All he had to do was not do drugs, treat us with some respect, get a job and not steal. Really, that was all we wanted. [/QUOTE]
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