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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 720802" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>well. new iteration.</p><p></p><p>call today. he needs money for deposit. today. or will lose opportnity. lie.</p><p></p><p>asked to be on speaker phone as he was with friend. </p><p></p><p>i have reservations i said. where's your skin the game j? h is trying to help you. you want me to help you. where are you helping yourself? if you haven't worked how can you take on an obligation to pay that kind of rent? what wiil change?</p><p></p><p>despite that i did pretty much say i would help. i feel so on a gangplank. </p><p></p><p>i later spoke with the friend alone who said something that made me so sad: j has not changed. he still wants to focus on his supplements. going to the movies alone. etc. we have to support him to do what he can and push him a little bit. i think the apartment is something he can do. me and another contractor are prepared to give him 1 or 2 days a week work.</p><p></p><p>then m came home. m thinks son is playing everybody. that there is a large preponderance that points to j's getting my money and not getting the apartment. i doubt that. but who knows? j tells us he wants to come home. he tells the friend he does not want to come back here.</p><p></p><p>m is in favor of j's coming home. (other house.) he says we can monitor him here. </p><p></p><p>i cannot really justify helping my son get an apartment he is not motivated to or able to pay for.</p><p></p><p>so this is where we are; no money yet. requested j call later tonight. we will pose to him a choice.</p><p></p><p>come back and live in the apt. m's brother will share.</p><p></p><p>if so: drug free. pay rent. be productive. if you damage willfully i call the police and report the crime.</p><p></p><p>or</p><p></p><p>if you wamt the apartment, commit to it and commit to working to pay the rent. commit to paying money back as a short term loan.</p><p></p><p>that's where i am. except his coming back makes my stomach twist in knots. but each way i pay a price. i am very little convinced he will make this work. but i feel torn</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 720802, member: 18958"] well. new iteration. call today. he needs money for deposit. today. or will lose opportnity. lie. asked to be on speaker phone as he was with friend. i have reservations i said. where's your skin the game j? h is trying to help you. you want me to help you. where are you helping yourself? if you haven't worked how can you take on an obligation to pay that kind of rent? what wiil change? despite that i did pretty much say i would help. i feel so on a gangplank. i later spoke with the friend alone who said something that made me so sad: j has not changed. he still wants to focus on his supplements. going to the movies alone. etc. we have to support him to do what he can and push him a little bit. i think the apartment is something he can do. me and another contractor are prepared to give him 1 or 2 days a week work. then m came home. m thinks son is playing everybody. that there is a large preponderance that points to j's getting my money and not getting the apartment. i doubt that. but who knows? j tells us he wants to come home. he tells the friend he does not want to come back here. m is in favor of j's coming home. (other house.) he says we can monitor him here. i cannot really justify helping my son get an apartment he is not motivated to or able to pay for. so this is where we are; no money yet. requested j call later tonight. we will pose to him a choice. come back and live in the apt. m's brother will share. if so: drug free. pay rent. be productive. if you damage willfully i call the police and report the crime. or if you wamt the apartment, commit to it and commit to working to pay the rent. commit to paying money back as a short term loan. that's where i am. except his coming back makes my stomach twist in knots. but each way i pay a price. i am very little convinced he will make this work. but i feel torn [/QUOTE]
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