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the ball is in his court??
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 720832" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Oh COPA, be kind to you. </p><p></p><p>I love this idea in theory and some months my son makes effort, other times it's as Albie said, I help with rent and then see he blows the $ that he has on foolishness or worse. I do resent that but for me, my help is for me. My dollars when they go, go directly to his landlord. In reality I know that having no address makes it nearly impossible where he lives to make progress. Small town, no shelter, no bus, limited services,etc. SO...currently he is blocked on our phones, my hubs texts him about every other wk with "hope you're doing ok" and we go on. I know he gets that our not taking calls is his punishment for bringing his drama here, but he seems/is incapable of understanding <strong>we can't take it anymore</strong>. He responds to our verbalizing that with telling us how it stinks <em>for him</em>, he has no empathy for us at all. He just cannot or will not see that his actions affect others.</p><p>If I'm honest, when we are on no contact, part of me hopes in that paying part of his rent, he will still realize we care. It's all I can bear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 720832, member: 20054"] Oh COPA, be kind to you. I love this idea in theory and some months my son makes effort, other times it's as Albie said, I help with rent and then see he blows the $ that he has on foolishness or worse. I do resent that but for me, my help is for me. My dollars when they go, go directly to his landlord. In reality I know that having no address makes it nearly impossible where he lives to make progress. Small town, no shelter, no bus, limited services,etc. SO...currently he is blocked on our phones, my hubs texts him about every other wk with "hope you're doing ok" and we go on. I know he gets that our not taking calls is his punishment for bringing his drama here, but he seems/is incapable of understanding [B]we can't take it anymore[/B]. He responds to our verbalizing that with telling us how it stinks [I]for him[/I], he has no empathy for us at all. He just cannot or will not see that his actions affect others. If I'm honest, when we are on no contact, part of me hopes in that paying part of his rent, he will still realize we care. It's all I can bear. [/QUOTE]
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