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the ball is in his court??
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 722812" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>You made the offer. He has the option, the back-up plan if things fall apart. I'm sure that offer does give him hope. He can now do what he wants, knowing that if it doesn't work out, there is a place for him to go.</p><p></p><p>I suspect most people here would think that's not the way to handle it. After all, "let them hit rock bottom" is a generally accepted notion. But, you know, having that back-up is not a bad thing in a typical person's life. While my parents were alive, I knew I could always call on them. When I was in a bad marriage, I knew I could always call this one old boyfriend - and he would come get me. There was a lot of nights I comforted myself with the thought that "If I can't take it anymore, I can call M and he will come help me." I have a couple friends who, if it all fell apart and I lost Jabber and everything else, I could stay with them while I regrouped. </p><p></p><p>Copa, you gave your son that by telling him he could have a place to stay.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>M is right. You've made the offer. He has your number. Leave the ball in his court and let it go for now. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 722812, member: 17309"] You made the offer. He has the option, the back-up plan if things fall apart. I'm sure that offer does give him hope. He can now do what he wants, knowing that if it doesn't work out, there is a place for him to go. I suspect most people here would think that's not the way to handle it. After all, "let them hit rock bottom" is a generally accepted notion. But, you know, having that back-up is not a bad thing in a typical person's life. While my parents were alive, I knew I could always call on them. When I was in a bad marriage, I knew I could always call this one old boyfriend - and he would come get me. There was a lot of nights I comforted myself with the thought that "If I can't take it anymore, I can call M and he will come help me." I have a couple friends who, if it all fell apart and I lost Jabber and everything else, I could stay with them while I regrouped. Copa, you gave your son that by telling him he could have a place to stay. M is right. You've made the offer. He has your number. Leave the ball in his court and let it go for now. :hugs: [/QUOTE]
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