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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 723079" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Huh. Interesting. Well, I guess you can give him props for telling you the truth?</p><p>No pretenses.</p><p>This is who I am.</p><p>When I was in what I refer to as the "revolving door phase" the kids would do okay for a time, then by their actions, "This is who I am" came across loud and clear.</p><p> At our expense, but really, more at their own, my grands.</p><p>A heavy dose of "It is what it is."</p><p></p><p>I don't know if they look at it as treatment, or mistreatment, or is it an adult child saying this is how I will live?</p><p>Will.</p><p>It's a big thing.</p><p>Really, out of our control.</p><p>The will to choose.</p><p>It's a quagmire. This rock bottom thing. I guess it is an individual tolerance. Surely, I thought many times for my two, that they had hit rock bottom.</p><p>According to my vision of rock bottom, they have gone beyond.</p><p>They have a high tolerance for poor living conditions.</p><p>It is mind boggling to me.</p><p></p><p> I think he does. He just doesn't choose it, yet. If only love and guidance and hope could save, and change our d cs situations for them. But, will and freedom of choice gets in the way.</p><p>He will do as he chooses, as will you.</p><p>It does not mean the end of the story is written and he will continue to choose as he does.</p><p>You have made so many generous and gracious offers for your son, Copa.</p><p>If that is what you choose, that is your choice, and it is okay.</p><p>We all have to do, what we have to do.</p><p> You are not wrong, Copa. How we struggle with all of this, it is never what we foresaw when the kids were young.</p><p></p><p>Will. There it is again.</p><p>You have laid down your terms, he, his.</p><p>I cannot fathom how anyone would choose homelessness over an opportunity to live in a home. </p><p>It is my Rains choice.</p><p>On my walk today, I had to ask forgiveness because I was mulling over the connection you have with your son. Inner thoughts turned to "All I have is prayer."</p><p>It is what it is.</p><p>But, prayer is a powerful, powerful thing.</p><p>I guess that's what it means to let go and let God.</p><p>Have faith that things will work themselves out in their own time.</p><p>At least I have the breath in me to pray.</p><p>The rest, really is up to my two.</p><p>Because they will do what they want to do, regardless of what I would wish, or choose for them.</p><p>Still I pray, because I have done about everything in my power to try to help, to no avail.</p><p>I am comforted with prayer.</p><p></p><p>I leave you with this quote and my hopes for you to be at peace with whatever this turns out to be.</p><p>It is a quote my father carried with him, from the philosopher Epictetus</p><p></p><p>"Seek not to have things happen as you choose, but rather, that they should happen as they do, and you shall live prosperously."</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 723079, member: 19522"] Huh. Interesting. Well, I guess you can give him props for telling you the truth? No pretenses. This is who I am. When I was in what I refer to as the "revolving door phase" the kids would do okay for a time, then by their actions, "This is who I am" came across loud and clear. At our expense, but really, more at their own, my grands. A heavy dose of "It is what it is." I don't know if they look at it as treatment, or mistreatment, or is it an adult child saying this is how I will live? Will. It's a big thing. Really, out of our control. The will to choose. It's a quagmire. This rock bottom thing. I guess it is an individual tolerance. Surely, I thought many times for my two, that they had hit rock bottom. According to my vision of rock bottom, they have gone beyond. They have a high tolerance for poor living conditions. It is mind boggling to me. I think he does. He just doesn't choose it, yet. If only love and guidance and hope could save, and change our d cs situations for them. But, will and freedom of choice gets in the way. He will do as he chooses, as will you. It does not mean the end of the story is written and he will continue to choose as he does. You have made so many generous and gracious offers for your son, Copa. If that is what you choose, that is your choice, and it is okay. We all have to do, what we have to do. You are not wrong, Copa. How we struggle with all of this, it is never what we foresaw when the kids were young. Will. There it is again. You have laid down your terms, he, his. I cannot fathom how anyone would choose homelessness over an opportunity to live in a home. It is my Rains choice. On my walk today, I had to ask forgiveness because I was mulling over the connection you have with your son. Inner thoughts turned to "All I have is prayer." It is what it is. But, prayer is a powerful, powerful thing. I guess that's what it means to let go and let God. Have faith that things will work themselves out in their own time. At least I have the breath in me to pray. The rest, really is up to my two. Because they will do what they want to do, regardless of what I would wish, or choose for them. Still I pray, because I have done about everything in my power to try to help, to no avail. I am comforted with prayer. I leave you with this quote and my hopes for you to be at peace with whatever this turns out to be. It is a quote my father carried with him, from the philosopher Epictetus "Seek not to have things happen as you choose, but rather, that they should happen as they do, and you shall live prosperously." (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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