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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 725805" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Thank you Copa and LBL. The infection Mom has is very difficult to cure. She has lived with it for awhile now. We are blessed that she has the time she does, and will have to see what the future holds.</p><p>As we have all written, there are no guarantees in this world.</p><p>Cancer is a nasty thing. I’m sorry LBL, for your own bout with it and your grandmother. 90 with leukemia is quite a blow. Dad lived with a rare cancer years beyond what docs expected, passed on and then three months later Mom was diagnosed. It has been this continuing series of unfortunate events. but..........</p><p>even with it all, we have lived a wonderful life. That is what I am focusing on, the blessings, if I looked at only the challenges I would not survive.</p><p>I am thinking lately that my experiences with my children when they were young were so special. There are many people who have children with health issues and struggles from birth on.</p><p>I think that’s what makes this hard, aside from our loving our d cs, and wishing the best for them, it is such a waste of life to just concentrate on “chasing the dragon.”</p><p> I was watching “Chopped” the other nite and one of the contestants was an addict. He spoke of wasted years drugging, he has turned it around to running a soup kitchen to feed the homeless, said he wanted to give back to what he took for so many years. Would he be there without his journey? Is there something good to come of all of this?</p><p>One can hope.</p><p>Sigh.</p><p>The beach was beautiful, sunny and cool at the same time. There is a tide pool I go to, a walk about on craggy black lava rocks close to the pounding surf. A deep hole formed within the lava shelf, close to the edge of constant rolling waves that crash into rushing white froth, filling the hole with fresh cool seawater. Granddaughter and I hiked to the spot and carefully waded in. The water was chilled enough to catch our breath and calm the suns heat off of our bodies. The tide was rising so each wave that crashed swirled evermore, overflowing the pool. We had to hang on a bit from getting knocked about. Then the sea would calm and the pool would become serene and clear.</p><p>I thought as we walked back, that life is like that pool. We try to find peace and refreshing waters amidst the constant pounding waves and burning sun of happenstance.</p><p>Sometimes life is hard, others not.</p><p><em>Everyone</em> is challenged by battles we are unaware of.</p><p><em>Everyone</em>.</p><p>At one time or another, we are all <em>tested</em>.</p><p>Just a month ago, Mom resent a note Daddy wrote about his last wishes. It was brief and to the point. He didn’t want a service, nor any of us to grieve, that he felt death was not an ending, just <em>another chapter.</em></p><p></p><p>I suppose that is a way to look at what goes on around us, the years we live are just that, chapters. Things that were so earth shattering when we were younger are but a distant memory that wakes every so often to reteach us what we needed to learn.</p><p>I wish for all of our d cs to awaken to their potential, but alas, they will do it in their own way.</p><p>Copa, your son is at least grasping at change and I hope it is that he has matured enough to want better for himself.</p><p>LBL, hang in there dear sister. It is a rough road, but you have proven yourself to be one tough lady. Stand strong and focus on you. I think our kids stand to benefit from our strengthening ourselves.</p><p>That’s it, shifting focus from trying to fix what’s beyond our control, to creating goals for our own future.</p><p>Love and hugs!</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 725805, member: 19522"] Thank you Copa and LBL. The infection Mom has is very difficult to cure. She has lived with it for awhile now. We are blessed that she has the time she does, and will have to see what the future holds. As we have all written, there are no guarantees in this world. Cancer is a nasty thing. I’m sorry LBL, for your own bout with it and your grandmother. 90 with leukemia is quite a blow. Dad lived with a rare cancer years beyond what docs expected, passed on and then three months later Mom was diagnosed. It has been this continuing series of unfortunate events. but.......... even with it all, we have lived a wonderful life. That is what I am focusing on, the blessings, if I looked at only the challenges I would not survive. I am thinking lately that my experiences with my children when they were young were so special. There are many people who have children with health issues and struggles from birth on. I think that’s what makes this hard, aside from our loving our d cs, and wishing the best for them, it is such a waste of life to just concentrate on “chasing the dragon.” I was watching “Chopped” the other nite and one of the contestants was an addict. He spoke of wasted years drugging, he has turned it around to running a soup kitchen to feed the homeless, said he wanted to give back to what he took for so many years. Would he be there without his journey? Is there something good to come of all of this? One can hope. Sigh. The beach was beautiful, sunny and cool at the same time. There is a tide pool I go to, a walk about on craggy black lava rocks close to the pounding surf. A deep hole formed within the lava shelf, close to the edge of constant rolling waves that crash into rushing white froth, filling the hole with fresh cool seawater. Granddaughter and I hiked to the spot and carefully waded in. The water was chilled enough to catch our breath and calm the suns heat off of our bodies. The tide was rising so each wave that crashed swirled evermore, overflowing the pool. We had to hang on a bit from getting knocked about. Then the sea would calm and the pool would become serene and clear. I thought as we walked back, that life is like that pool. We try to find peace and refreshing waters amidst the constant pounding waves and burning sun of happenstance. Sometimes life is hard, others not. [I]Everyone[/I] is challenged by battles we are unaware of. [I]Everyone[/I]. At one time or another, we are all [I]tested[/I]. Just a month ago, Mom resent a note Daddy wrote about his last wishes. It was brief and to the point. He didn’t want a service, nor any of us to grieve, that he felt death was not an ending, just [I]another chapter.[/I] I suppose that is a way to look at what goes on around us, the years we live are just that, chapters. Things that were so earth shattering when we were younger are but a distant memory that wakes every so often to reteach us what we needed to learn. I wish for all of our d cs to awaken to their potential, but alas, they will do it in their own way. Copa, your son is at least grasping at change and I hope it is that he has matured enough to want better for himself. LBL, hang in there dear sister. It is a rough road, but you have proven yourself to be one tough lady. Stand strong and focus on you. I think our kids stand to benefit from our strengthening ourselves. That’s it, shifting focus from trying to fix what’s beyond our control, to creating goals for our own future. Love and hugs! Leafy [/QUOTE]
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